I can't find the perfect venue!! :(

FH and I also absolutely wanted something different. We were not interested in a ballroom type wedding and we're only having 35 people. If you're willing to go to Delaware, this is where we're getting married http://www.hagley.org/about-us/rentals/weddings-hagley . The entire museum is open for pictures. The Soda House or Library are both beautiful inside. And they have a few different ceremony choices. I also love the coordinator, she's been just incredible with information and communication. We went there, we saw it, we fell in love.

It's not industrial, but it's definitely not typical. The buildings there are from the 1800s.

Call shadowbrook at shrewsbury nj. That's where I'm having mine. When I went there they were having a wedding with 100 ppl. They work really well with people.

I'm getting a bit discouraged too. Although my scheduled wedding date is about a year out, every place I've called within my area is booked through 2017 and some for the first 6 months of 2018!

One of my best friends got married at the Glasbern Inn in Foglesville, PA. I loved it there!

Kolo club in hoboken...

i think they fit up to 75 or 80

incredible place, amazing bar, great food!

Here is my list dump for the venues we refer in in NJ. They are all great sites for groups under 100, some as little as two.

- Fish Urban in Ridgewood (ask for Karen)

- The Plum and The Pear (ask for Alex or George)

-Flemings in Edgewater, (ask for Shannon)****

-St. Eve's in Hohokus

-Orama in Edgewater (ask for Stacey)

-The Wooden Duck Inn in Newton (talk to Marianne)

-The Madison Hotel, in Morristown (talk to Chris or Joe)

-Chakra in Paramus

-The Ho Ho Kus Inn

-Pig and Prince in Montclair

-McLoone's Boathouse in West Orange

-Solar Di Minho in Newark

-Osseys, in Hawthorne

-The Manor, in West Orange (Ask for Patrick)

-The Grain House at the Old Mille Inn; you could stay here as well (ask for Lindsay Stewart or Marien)

-Bottagra, in Hawthorne (Ask for Dan)

-The Brickhouse, in Wyckoff (Ask for Michael)

-Mohawk House, in Sparta (Ask for Rachel)

-Michael's Riverside, in Lyndhurst

-Pintxo Y Tapas in Englewood

-The Charthouse, in Weehawken (Also dog friendly)

-Ninety Acres at Natirar. Peapack/Gladstone (ask for Meghan)

-Amandas, in Hoboken

-Saddle River Inn, Saddle River

-Le Jardin, Edgewater

-Highlawn Pavilion (ask for Chris)

-Ramapo College Spiritual Center (Linda Kavan, Coordinator 201-684-7094) -San Cubano in West New York

-Fitzgerald's 1928 in Glen Ridge

-The Charthouse in Weehawken

-The Stone House at Sterling Ridge

-Park West, Ridgewood

-Desperate Soles Brewery, Jersey City

-Gladstone Tavern, Gladstone, NJ

My post of venues for intimate weddings got flagged. If you'd like it, please message me.

For the record? Not an advertisement since I have no interest in any of these venues, but they are simply places that we've collected over the years. Many of them are listed here.

We looked at a restaurant/bar in Manayunk, PA... the Manayunk Brewing Company. I'm sure there are dozens of other similar bars/restaurants in the Philadelphia area that have the vibe you are looking for!

I have some friends who got married at Material Culture in NW philly and it looked cool. Also the armory, the Maas building.

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Sorry Celia - it's back up!

I also love Highlawn Pavilion!

You rock! Thank you!

I'll second one of Celia's recommendation:

the Mohawk House (yes!)

She recommended it to me but its too small for my guest list (130) but i NEED to go to get my butt there and sample this food but OMG the menu sounds spectacular and the place is absolutely stunning!

Look at the Jockey Hollow Bar & Kitchen in Morristown. I LOVED this venue it's super unique and gorgeous, but my guest list was too large for it to work. I would also check out Kolo Klub in Hoboken, 14 & Hudson in Piermont, NY, and Battello in Jersey City. I'd also like to second some of Celia's recommendations....we also looked at the Park West Loft in Ridgewood and we thought it was awesome and their menu is fabulous. I've attended events at St. Eve's in Ho Ho Kus and The Brick House in Wyckoff and they are both fantastic!

I'm getting married at the bear mountain inn. It's located in NY. I attached a photo of what it looks like.

Jockey Hollow is gorgeous and stylish. Battello is one of my all time faves, but I think their minimum is too high, though in a bridge season, you might be surprised.

We love all the Bear Mountain venues, but again, the minimum might be too high except for the Carousel, which is incredibly cool.

@CeliaMilton Omg thank you so much!! I'm going to be doing lots of looking into all of those places!! I really appreciate it!!

Thanks everyone for all the help!! I think me and FH have lots to look into know!!

What area are you interested in?? What are you looking for in the food and venue? I can make some recommendations in my area, the Jersey Shore!

Jockey Hollow is so beautiful!

I just had my reception at the Madison Hotel in Morristown, our minimum for the ballroom was 125. My co-worker is getting married there next month in the conservatory, and her minimum count is 95 which is still a good amount above your guest count.

I've never been to the Grain House for a wedding but we've had other parties in there, after baptisms I think and we did have Easter dinner there once too (I live 10 mins from there). It's so beautiful and cosy inside, I'm not sure what their minimum is though. I would definitely recommend checking it out though!

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