I'm sorry in advance for the long rant, and if it comes off as whining but I am so stressed, annoyed, and overwhelmed right now.
Last February I got engaged to my fiancé and we are set to get married this May. I have gotten a lot done, but as you all know, there's a lot of time and money that goes into weddings. Anyway, this June a friend of mine got engaged. I honestly wasn't expecting her to ask me to be in her wedding as I only met her the previous june when I worked at a summer job for two or three months and we never hung out one on one, usually just with work friends. Let say this friend's name is Jessica.
I have to say Jessica is a very sweet girl and I liked her off the bat but I never felt we were super close as I only hung out with her a handful of times. I did notice early on she asked a lot of favors. For example, she was moving apartments the first month I met her and asked for help. Not a huge deal, but she asked nonchalantly which I think was odd since I hardly knew her, plus she knew I lived 40 minutes away from her so wasn't at all convenient. I did help her, she promised pizza as "pay" which never happened. She then started asking me to watch her dog all the time. I was happy to do so at first because he's a sweet dog, that was until he broke out of our house several times and bit my dog to the point where his whole face swelled. After that I put my foot more than once that I could not watch him, especially without a kennel. Still continued to ask me to ask me favors like this which I think is weird from someone you've know less than a year? To fair she hadn't met a lot of people in this area since moving from LA, but it just felt like being taken advantage of.
Fast forward to this summer, she asked me and some other girls to be a bridesmaid in front of her whole engagement party which made it hard to decline. I so wish I had. My phone is constantly blown up by her and her MOH, switching dates, asking for more money, even asking we could PAY to make macramé decorations for her to keep for her wedding, if we could make her cookie wedding cake the night before. I constantly have to set boundaries. I told her I would only come one night to her bachelorette as my honeymoon is only the week before. I told her she could not have all her bridesmaids stay at my home. I have told her I will help however I can, but on top of my wedding we also bought a house. It just feels never ending. I have thought about backing out but feel guilty as I don't want to hurt her at all, especially before her wedding. It's just too much. Two of the other bridesmaids are in the same situation as me, who also met her at the summer job. But being a bride myself it seems like she is expecting A LOT from people she hasn't known long. Any advice or similar stories are appreciated.
xo
