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How Young Is Too Young For Flower Girl/Ring Bearer?

Lisa, on November 14, 2020 at 7:34 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 51
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What is the "minimum age" for a flower girl and/or ring bearer? Is 2 too young? How old were your flower girls and ring bearers?

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Latest activity by Lisa, on November 30, 2020 at 9:46 AM
  • Hannah
    Rockstar July 2019
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    We had 2 flowers girls who were 4 and 2 (really a few months shy of 2) and 1 ring bearer who was 7.

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  • Jasmine
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    My flower girl is going to be 2 at the time of the wedding, however my original wedding she would have been 18 months. If they can walk I say go for it. It gets a little more complicated when they can’t walk.
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  • Stacey
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    I don’t think 2 is too young (it will actually be super adorable), but she will most likely need some help finding her way down the aisle (either a parent coaxing her on the side or a slightly older flower girl to accompany her). My niece was a flower girl when she was 2, but there’s no way she could have done it herself.

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  • M
    Super October 2022
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    3 and under is pretty young. They don't carry real rings anyway and not all toss petals due to nerves.
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  • Jamie
    Dedicated July 2021
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    I'm having my niece, who will be 2 at the time, as my flower girl. For the sake of possible nerves and to guide her im having her walk down with my 9 year old nephew who will be my ring bearer. Also, I'm having both sides of the aisle dressed in petals before the ceremony, so if she doesn't end up throwing any it's already taken care of.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    Age 2 is fine, especially if they are good listeners.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
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    I agree- age 2 is fine. Our flower girl will be just about to turn 10 & our ring bearer will be 2.5 yrs old by next April. They’re great kids, very well behaved & listen to directions.
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
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    2 isn't too young at all. My flower girl was 8 and my ring bearers (actually sign holders lol) were 6 & 2. Our 2 year old did amazing!
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  • Lisa
    Super October 2021
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    I posted the opposite question yesterday. My niece will be 9 at the time of our wedding next October and I was worried that may be “too old”. It’s seems to be the perfect age. She started her flower girl career about 7 years ago so I think 2/2.5 is a good age. You may not get much petal tossing but she’ll look cute!
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  • KiwiDerbyBride
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    2 is fine if there are older kids for them to walk with. I had my two nephews (who were 7 and nearly 4 at the time) and my best friend’s two kids who were nearly 5 and just 2. The two year old walked with her older brother and she was absolutely fine.

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  • Heather
    Expert August 2020
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    At my SIL’s wedding her flower girl was around 2, and she was excited to do it but she also got very nervous. Thankfully her dad had a shirt that said Flower Girl Security and walked alongside her, which I thought was super cute.
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  • CountryBride
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    At my wedding I will have a 5 year old ,7 year old for ring bears

    a 4 year old , 2 year old girl for flower girls

    and a 1 year old boy for a ring bear there is no age

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  • Lorraine
    Dedicated January 2021
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    We have four flower girls. Two almost 2-year olds, a 9 year old and a 12 year old. Each older girl is getting paired with a toddler to walk down with. The older girls get mini bouquets.
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
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    Very cool! We are considering asking a family member if their son (who will be a little over 2 at the time of our wedding) could be a ring bearer, but I wasn't sure if that's considered too young. Was the flower girl who was 2 at your wedding able to walk down the aisle and generally participate without issue?
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
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    That makes sense! We were kind of thinking the same thing, that if they could walk by the time our wedding gets closer, that it would probably work out. Thank you for your input!
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
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    That's a great idea! I could have the ring bearers and flower girl all walk down the aisle together. Thank you for the suggestion!
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
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    That was my concern. We're considering asking a family member if their son could be a ring bearer, but he'll be a little over 2 at the time of our wedding. We of course wouldn't give him the real rings though. I've seen pictures where people have infants in a wagon as a flower girl/ring bearer, but we were trying to figure out if 2 was still too young (even if they could walk on their own). Would it be better to group the flower girl and ring bearers together so they all help each other down the aisle? Or just not include them at all?
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  • Hannah
    Rockstar July 2019
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    Yeah, she was walking. It was actually really cute. The 2 year old actually threw some flower petals, and the 4 year old was picking them up because she didn't want there to be a mess. For the ring bearer, I probably just wouldn't give him the actual rings. Our ring bearer was 7 and a pretty responsible kid, so I trusted him to have the actual rings on the pillow, and we only gave it to him right before the ceremony. For a 2 year old, I'd probably have the best man or someone hold the rings, just to be safe.
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  • M
    Super October 2022
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    Kids are incredibly unpredictable. What is the dynamic of the kids? Do they get along otherwise. Even the best behaved toddlers will freak out among strangers. Either have them escorted with an adult or skip the younger under age 7ish crowd walking down the aisle.
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
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    I like both of your ideas! Very creative to set the rose petals on the aisle ahead of time, I had not thought of that before. Thank you for sharing!
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