How would you respond to a facebook post like this?

Meh, my mom said the same thing for a few months.

IMO, unsolicited advice given on a public forum like FB about your budget is inappropriate and doesn't warrant a thank you. But responding just fans the fire.

I say, delete, forget, and keep movin'. If she brings it up her message I'd say, "Oh yes I saw that, you know thanks but we've decided on what works for us, so how's your pottery class?" and firmly but politely change the subject.

Her $5000 budget and telling you to hire a friend instead of professional videography?

Tell her that you'll be sticking with your $57,600 budget thanks

@ Jabez lmao

In my opinion, responding to her will only encourage her. It's okay to read, but do not respond. Delete the message.

It's annoying, yes, but I don't think she means anything malicious by it. Most likely, she's trying to be helpful and just doesn't realize that people don't really want that kind of "advice."

I dont think she means anything by it...she is just trying to be helpful...I would send a simple thank you and leave it at that

As with all advice (well intentioned or not), the best response would be to give a Facebook smile, say thanks and go ahead with what you want to do.

As with all advice (well intentioned or not), the best response would be to give a Facebook smile, say thanks and go ahead with what you want to do.

I guess I'm in the minority because I think it's definitely rude for a peer (not even an older relative or someone you might have gone to for advice and wisdom) to publicly and condescendingly give you unsolicited advice on Facebook. Not worth engaging someone who has nothing better to do than stick her nose in your business though. I would just delete this and any similar posts she makes in the future and hopefully she will get the hint.

If her advice isn't wanted by you and you are only "friends" not friends just delete her. I keep my fb friends to under 100 people. The people who are actually family or friends, people I would invite to things basically. If I don't like them enough to hang out with them they don't need to knw everything about my life.

To me it sounds like good advice. I have heard lots of married people say they wish they spend less on the wedding and had a bigger downpayment for a house.

I would actually second her advice, but if it's bugging you delete it and her.

I'm the kind of person that would think its rude to tell people what to do with their money! I as well have a $25,000 budget lol and no one has yet to tell me what to spend it on or ask us how much we spent! But I would take that as been rude just like @caseyc ... If its a wall post delete it, I would message her to not worry about your finances !

I think it depends on how the message was delivered. If it was a public post, that's uncalled for. If it was a private message, then it was sent with the best intentions. As someone who had a small budget and is now trying to buy a house- I regret spending as much as we did on the wedding, and we didn't spend much. We both make really good money, but things change. Without going into details, I suffered health problems that caused me to stop working. Insurance didn't pay out (yet), and I had mounting medical bills. We could still afford the wedding on DH's salary alone, but it hit us harder and we weren't able to save the way we had planned for general life stuff.

I think she had good intentions. $25,000 is a VERY high wedding budget. She may be looking back and realizing that her money could have been put to better use- as most of us brides do. I'd look at it with general concern and wanting you to prevent mistakes that she now regrets.

@Meghan B. -well said!

I agree with the posters indicating that the girl meant well..but I do feel it is tacky/awkward to go around sharing how much you spent when you didn't ask her. If she just PM'd you then it wouldn't be as big of a deal as if she wrote that on your wall for everyone to see..if it was a PM, then I wonder how she might feel of you posting her message and name on WW...if it was on your wall and you both are searchable then nevermind :-)

I am sure she means no harm, I would thank her and let her know you have all the planning covered and move on. Congrats and happy planning!

I'm with the other girls, just reply with a "thanks, we figure out what we are comfortable spending and we are sticking to it."

I think she means welll.... I have gotten a lot of those as well...

I will juust say THANK YOU!