How to word a no children invite?

View Quoted Comment You’re reading her comment completely wrong(as several other people did) Shes saying that a cutesy comment about a date night out away from the kids is rude. She’s not saying it’s rude to not invite kids...🙄


OP, the way you do this is simply address the invitations to who IS invited, with no need to mention “adult only”. It’s rude to point out who is not invited. So be sure to address them as “Mr. and Mrs. Smith” instead of “The Smith Family”, which implies children. It also helps to have a line on the RSVP card that says the number of seats reserved, so 2 seats instead of the couple plus however many kids they have.

View Quoted Comment Yep. That's exactly what did. Period.

View Quoted Comment Consider this isn't "a night to ourselves" ( kind of selfish to assume that) but a night for you to go support, love, and be honored to be asked to be a part of someone else's union is quite well and honor. It's not about you nor are you paying for it, so you should never take it personally because frankly it isn't about you. Just thoughts on your comment. 😲

View Quoted Comment Her whole point was to not add a note about it being a “date night” on the invitation. Weddings aren’t date nights. Also, it’s not an “honor” to be one of hundreds invited to people’s wedding. If it’s small and your best friend? Sure. Most of the weddings we’ve been invited to have had between 150-200 guests though and sometimes we barely know the bride and groom.

View Quoted Comment I responded to a person's comment on how they view it as they'd decline right then and there ect and then I responded to that, and I'm not sure if you're thinking I responded to the Bride who originally posted the question but if you are responding to my comment then,

still whether you're the close person or the barely know them person, it's still rude to say or think you're being told how to spend a date night, it's selfish to even think that. It's not a BBQ for adults it's a wedding and should be treated as such. And yes, it's still an honor you're being thought of when getting an invite regardless.

View Quoted Comment Yes, there is a serious problem with reading comprehension happening here!

View Quoted Comment I completely understood who you were commenting to. Her stance is that she’d decline a wedding invitation if the invitation included something about parents using it as a date night. I agree with her. Weddings aren’t date nights. If you think you’re going to convince me you chose to not invite my kids so I could have a good time, I’m declining and enjoying a night with my kids because well my kids are a lot of fun.

How is it selfish to think im being told how to spend a date night when the invite literally suggests using the wedding as a date night? We can agree to disagree on the honor thing. If you barely know me, you aren’t inviting me to honor our relationship.

View Quoted Comment Ok I think this is all get confused. I just re-read the bride's original post, she no way indicated that she was saying her wedding is a date night. I then scrolled down to the the comment that I responded to, which there was no indication of the bride replying (or that I saw) about writing a date night of sorts when I read that person's comment, so I naturally assume that the comment I read to the bride she took it as a person's wedding to be a date night, which I feel is wrong and selfish, it's not about them it's about the bride and groom. It's a wedding, a sacred loving affair that you've been graciously thought of and asked to attend. If you can't go bc you're kids can't go that's always ok, again a wedding isn't about the guest it's about the bride and groom.

We said no kids, and have had no complaints. We sent STD early, with the statement on the RSVP, so that the parents had ample time to make arrangements for their kids. Do not over stress or over-analyze this. If it is right for you, then do it.

This is how we worded it: "So that all guests have an evening of relaxation and celebration, the Bride and Groom respectfully request an adults only ceremony and reception."

Now, I know that it is not the popular opinion on WW, but in my experience there was absolutely NO backlash, and it was no big deal. Actually, I have had compliments on the wording from various guests. Don't let worry convince you to do something that you dont want to, or cant afford to do.

View Quoted Comment I was a nanny to a family with 2 little girls (who are coming to my wedding and are my flower girls) for 7 years and they found me on care.com...