How to word a no children invite?

View Quoted Comment No 15 is just immediate family... We have 44!

View Quoted Comment Sounds about right 😂

We added adult only reception on our invitations. It's your wedding and you should do what's best for your budget and vision. If you try to politically correct or not offend others you will go crazy. You cannot please everyone. I love kids but they can totally change the vibe of a classy affair.

I put a note on the bottom of my save the dates that simply said “no children under 7 please.” Let them interpret that however they may and if they can’t come because of it, then so be it. In your case I’d probably just leave it at “no children please.”

We're getting married in a Mansion...I am not going to be responsible if someone's kids sneak off upstairs and break something while we're partying... I'm sure we'll hear "Not me" " I didn't do it" ...
But FH and I are the ones with the signed contract.... nope... ...no kids...
My advice is call them before you send the invite so that they are aware of what's to come in the mail... don't surprise them. Explain it before hand and if they tell you no... save yourself a stamp! Case solved!

I addressed invites to parents only. I collected RSVPs on my website where they could only rsvp for who was invited. We had an FAQ section where we put the question: Are my kids invited? Our A: We love your kids, we really do, but our wedding will be an adults-only affair.

The mother of one of the groomsmen, who is not staying for the reception, still asked if she could bring her 5 yo grandson to the ceremony. We had to tell her no.

View Quoted Comment No one is making you go to a wedding.

I am so confused about the people saying that it is rude to tell an adult how to spend their time, and that they would decline the invite. It is a wedding for two people that do not want children there. No one is telling you how to spend YOUR time, it is how they are spending THEIR time and you can join them if you'd like too. It is your choice to go, and not rude of anyone to want an adult only party.

View Quoted Comment Ok so if there is no kids at wedding then the adults will have a kid free night if they go to the wedding. There for the wedding will be a kids free night if the parent goes.

View Quoted Comment I understand completely. Me and my fiance are looking at doing something similar depending on which venue we get (we're surrounded by places that have limited guest numbers). We're just going to put "We regret to say that we will be unable to accommodate children under age (X) for our wedding." if this is the route we end up going. The only reason we're choosing to have an age restriction is because we both have much younger siblings. My 14 year old sister is a bridesmaid, so we agreed to do something like that.

View Quoted Comment You shoudnt feel bad. Are you kidding...

View Quoted Comment I don't think they're trying to say anything other than don't try to sell it as a date night, as most people probably wouldn't just randomly go to a wedding on a date. I haven't seen anything where they're saying you have to invite people's children.

View Quoted Comment You'd actually be ok to have just your siblings there and not invite other children. They're your immediate family.

View Quoted Comment Same boat. It's my sis' kids, so if we invite any, they would have to be as well. We're having the reception in our favorite art gallery, so no thank you.

View Quoted Comment She's saying it's rude to imply that parents can't enjoy a night out with their kids or can't really let their hair down and enjoy themselves if their children are around. Not inviting children isn't rude within itself but don't sell it as a fun date night or use cute language about how you aren't inviting kids because you really want parents to be able to enjoy themselves.

View Quoted Comment This. If you don’t want kids at your wedding, fine, but don’t act as if you’re doing me a favor by not allowing my children to come. Date nights to me aren’t attending a wedding where I have to eat with 6-8 other people and speak over loud music. Date nights are for cozy dark booths, quiet and thoughtful conversations and “turning in” early. Weddings mean hundreds of dollars in sitter fees on a day you’ve chosen with food and entertainment you’ve cbosen. It usually means a long, late night out which means no private time with my husband.

View Quoted Comment Not trying to be argumentative, but you absolutely can have no kids, even if they're coming from out of town. I am. Care.com has sitters all over the country and they can pre-plan and interview as needed.

View Quoted Comment I personally (if I had or wanted kids) would not want to leave them with someone off an app/website, so I wouldn't encourage my guests to do that. Plus we already decided and there is no going back now. Thanks though hopefully someone finds that suggestion helpful.

It might be considered impolite, but on the back of our invite, right above our wedding website link, we put "Adult Reception to Follow." It has been effective. NOBODY has assumed their children are invited and ALL people with children have still RSVPed as attending.

We are also having no kids. We have a tight budget. Our venue provides seating for up to 100, any more we have to pay for and we would need another 2 tables and chairs or more if we were to invite kids.

It's your wedding, do what you want. My sister already knows, and I will tell my brother before Save the Dates go out. My FH's mom just got remarried a couple years ago and she didn't have kids at her wedding. So his cousins left their kids in the care of a sitter, and had no issues. There's maybe a handful of people who have kids, so we will let them know. It is what it is.

I was just going to address the RSVP to the persons invited, and they will already know beforehand anyway so there should be no confusion.