How to UNINVITE a self-invite

I had a friend who basically made herself a Bridesmaid... And I was just like No. I just didn't send her an invite. and I don't talk about the wedding with her.. It is just an awkward situation all around.

Just don't send her an invite. If she says anything, just say your budget constraints are limited the amount of people you can invite. So it's just going to be very close family and friends. That's what I am doing anyway.

I wouldn't even say anything til closer to the wedding. When I first got engaged so many people kept inviting themselves. Well my wedding is 2 years away and I decided to stop posting anything wedding related about a month ago, and guess what? No one has invited themselves since.

That's tough but you just have to tell her the truth, that it's a small family wedding.

I agree with everyone else, try to avoid discussing the wedding with her. Then, when it's time, just don't send an invite. If she brings it up expalin that it's a private, family wedding. I had a lot of people invite themselves to mine as well (and our location is very private and we cannot have more than 40 guests) I only come here to discuss the wedding and ask opinions now so I'm hoping most people will forget We aren't even sending invites because the ceremony is so small.

We got engaged 11 months out. I jumped the gun and asked a whole bunch of high-school and college friends for their addresses…some of them didn't realistically fit into the guest list so when the time came around to send invites they didn't get one. Nobody cared and the people I didn't invite I haven't talked to since I asked for their addresses. No harm done.

It depends on how often you talk to her. If you don't talk to her much these days, then no worries. Your wedding is so far away that, even if you do, you can just say "We're not sending out invitations for a long time" and then just don't talk about the wedding, don't put it on FB.

I think you are far enough out where I would simply not say anything to that friend for a while and hope she forgets No, seriously though. If she says anything about your wedding, simply say that you haven't decided on the guest list yet but that you are considering a small - only family - ceremony and reception. Hopefully she will get the hint.

Don't give her any details and don't send one.

Better than what my FSIL did, she just posted all over her facebook and texts etc saying "Who wants to come to my wedding on ..... .... " Went as far as messaging people in my family whom she's never met saying "Do you want to come to my wedding if so i need you to send me your address"

LOL don't we all wish we could let any one and every one, even strangers come! HAHAHAHAHA,

Then literally 50 people, out of the 400 invites sent out (ON FACEBOOK) showed up!

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I just don't respond to anybody when they self invite themselves to the wedding. Normally they're saying something else along with trying to self invite themselves, so I just acknowledge their first comment and not the invite part. Once the invites go out and they don't receive one they'll get the point, and if they do ask I'll just mention we had to cut the guest list down due to budget constraints. They'll get over it.

Your wedding is far enough away that I wouldn't worry about it right now. She'll figure it out when she doesn't get an invite. If she asks why, just explain that you are having almost exclusively family.

I think if you told her it is intended to be a very very small family wedding, the only thing you have to ask yourself is, do you want to be another person's wedding too? I did end up inviting some friends who are casual because I figured they were also getting married soon and so we would go to theirs and they will be at ours. I did for a few folks not even bother with them knowing they did not invite us to theirs and yet expect to be at ours. Sorry if they wanted to be at ours they should have thought it out more carefully that there is less motivation to invite them.

You simply don't send an invitation and keep details to yourself.

Right agree with everyone else, just dont mention nor send an invite. simple.

@Amy, I love your response - I was saying just this morning that I need to pick some fights with people just to bring our guest list down.

Thank you everyone I have a hard time confronting people or "being mean" as my FH puts it so I guess I just needed some backup to do the right thing