How to tell my parents i want to marry young?

Okay, here comes the faith/religious post lol I am a Christian and my FH is a soon-to-be police officer. Although I do not know your religious/faith beliefs I'm genuinely curious how, if God is leading you to be married, he would approve of you moving in together prior to marriage? I realize that you can be of faith and do this, but I'm wondering if you're being selective in what you are "hearing" due to the the desire to be with your boyfriend? I've seen it a lot with young couples (friends) that can't wait to get married for a LOT of different reason (sex, moving out of the home, finances etc.) AND I remember feeling this way myself lol. I'm not asking out of judgement but rather of caution that if you really are serious in your faith, making moves that are not aligned with you faith could be really difficult for your marriage in the long run and, with your boyfriend in service you already are going to be in a challenging marriage. As I prepare for my FH to potentially loose his life each day as an officer, I definitely feel a push to be together sooner than later, but I also know that it's my job to support him in his faith too. As I said, I have no clue what your faith is and I hope this does not sound harsh, this is a thought genuinely out of concern if you happen to have the same values. If not, disregard this lol

FH and I got engaged during our last year of college at 21/22, and we used 1 year out of college to save and plan while we worked our full-time jobs and we got married at 23/23. I do not regret my choice, and we have a very happy marriage, but keep in mind we spent 3+ years together in college, studying together, making meals, buying groceries. And this was also after we had both been on our own after a few serious relationships. We knew what we wanted, we had ways to discover our high compatibility without being married, and we discussed our key values/morals/life goals before we even considered marriage. And then we talked about marriage for another year before we got engaged. I do think that in some ways, it's best not to consider marriage for at least 1 year of dating, because the honeymoon phase needs to wear off before you can see true colors, but I know everyone is different.

Really it's not about your age. You need to make sure you can argue in healthy ways (and not just about where you go out to eat) and come to a conclusion together, you need to make sure your ideals/values/morals match up, especially with children and how you want to raise them and when, how do they act when they're angry/sad/upset and how do they handle stress? You need to make sure you enjoy time together that isn't just oogly googly time or dates, things like grocery shopping, chores, etc. We are religious too, but there's just so many levels of getting to know a person that I don't think you can achieve in less than a year. A lot of times it's a bad sign if you feel that you need to prove your love to someone, especially a parent, it can sometimes be a subconscious way of your brain defending itself against something that it knows isn't quite right. Not that you're in the wrong here, just really take some time to think about this. And also, your reasoning shouldn't be about money, insurance, or where you live, like others said, military life is hard, and many people get married young and divorced so this isn't something to rush into. In some ways, you might be better off waiting until he gets deployed and see how your relationship does and how it is when he comes back, because if you get married without knowing what it's like while he is away, then that could put a real strain on your relationship. Money shouldn't be a factor here, I think you get married for love, not for insurance/benefits. And another thing is that love can wait, no you shouldn't wait based on your parents, but you should be able to feel like you can wait 1-2 years and still feel the same way. Sometimes people rush into marraige for benefits or to validate a relationship and really you should make sure you relationship as bf/gf can stand on it's own two feet without feeling like it's going to crumble if you don't get married right this second.

I don't think you are too young. I do however disagree that you are ready for this. You say you haven't been together long and your list of reasons to get married is mostly beneficial. Get to know him longer. Have a large list of reasons that do not include money to get married. This should be your one and only not your ticket to cheaper schooling.

I am in the same place right now I am almost 17 and my boyfriend is 18 he is from Jordan he asked me to married him I love my mother and I want to be with him but I don't know how to tell her this he is my world and I don't want to lose him when he has to leave and he can't come back

I haven't even read the comments yet but this is truth.

I grew up in a military family and all but one couple I met over my childhood divorced. It's actually the reason I went into marriage and family counseling for my first career. I wanted to work with military families.

Take the military out of it and I also agree with the first sentence in here. If your argument is that you are old enough to get married (I won't sprinkle you with the whole age thing even though I am SO GLAD I didn't marry at a young age as I planned) then you are old enough to tell your parents and deal with the consequences. Your parents likely have valid concerns and they will have them regardless - you can't change that because they have life experiences that give them those concerns.

Finally, I'm not sure what "not too long" looks like for you, but that is also a concern. People are layered. I've been with my husband for almost 9 years and am still learning things about him and vice versa. It doesn't mean it's not possible, but it is A LOT more work when you don't know someone well. You are staring down a road that will make things much more difficult for you - military marriage with someone you haven't been with long at a young age. It doesn't mean you will fail but it does mean it will be difficult and people who love you will have concerns regardless of how you try to break the news.