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How to tactfully address bridesmaid hair clashing with wedding(all set thanks for the advice)

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jennifer, on October 21, 2017 at 5:21 PM

I could be wrong that it clashes, but when I show it to people they look at me like what? There's a chance that she'll change her hair before the wedding, but what do I do if it gets closer and she still has it? I know it's her hair her choice, but I don't want her to feel out of place either. I don't want to be a bridezilla but I don't want my pictures to look ridiculous. I hope I'm not coming off mean. I haven't said anything to her because I don't want to hurt her feelings. I'll put the dress down below that she picked color and style for to match her red hair at the time.

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Devoted March 2018
Tara · on October 22, 2017 at 12:45 AM
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Why is this even an issue? It's just hair...
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CJ325 · on October 22, 2017 at 2:00 AM
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I wouldn't say a thing to her about her hair color. Who knows what it will look like by June anyway. Everyone will be looking at you at the wedding and in the photos afterwards. Her hair color shouldn't be an issue (especially so if it was that color when you asked her to be in your wedding).
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Devoted April 2017
Miranda · on October 22, 2017 at 3:40 AM
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Your wedding isn't even until the summer. Don't even worry about it.
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Courtney · on October 22, 2017 at 4:53 AM
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1) you have about a year and there's a chance that, if your friend dyes her hair often, that she'd change it by then
2) you're right about it being her hair, her decision. You can't "make her" change it.
3) that being said, a considerate friend would ask the bride for a preference (closer to your wedding). Ex: I asked the bride if I could cut my hair short this past summer for her fall wedding. I was a bridesmaid and wanted to make sure she didn't want us all having extravagant updos that my shorter hair (even grown out after a few months) might not be able to accommodate.
4) I actually think the blue is kinda neutral and pretty with the pink dress. Personally I'd be more upset about fire engine red.
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Master October 2017
Must Love Cats · on October 22, 2017 at 9:44 AM
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Leave her alone. You accept your friend as she is. Her hair matches the pink dress beautifully. My friend dyes her hair constantly and I didn't give a shit about her hair, nor about her and another's tattoos. You take your friend as she is or you had no business asking her to stand up for you.
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