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jennifer
Expert June 2018

How to tactfully address bridesmaid hair clashing with wedding(all set thanks for the advice)

jennifer, on October 21, 2017 at 5:21 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 45

I could be wrong that it clashes, but when I show it to people they look at me like what? There's a chance that she'll change her hair before the wedding, but what do I do if it gets closer and she still has it? I know it's her hair her choice, but I don't want her to feel out of place either. I don't want to be a bridezilla but I don't want my pictures to look ridiculous. I hope I'm not coming off mean. I haven't said anything to her because I don't want to hurt her feelings. I'll put the dress down below that she picked color and style for to match her red hair at the time.


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Latest activity by Must Love Cats, on October 22, 2017 at 9:44 AM
  • jennifer
    Expert June 2018
    jennifer ·
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    This is the dress


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  • Ashley
    VIP May 2018
    Ashley ·
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    You don't worry about it because you have more than a year. You also don't make her change her hair, that's beyond, beyond rude.

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  • QueSeraSera
    VIP December 2017
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    You have a lot of time so her hair might be a different color by the time your wedding comes around

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  • Kiwibride
    Super November 2018
    Kiwibride ·
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    You don't say anything to her. She knows what colour her dress is and dyed her hair knowing that. You don't get a say in her hair colour and you know that. For what it's worth, I don't think it looks bad together

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  • ambrok
    Master October 2017
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    Personally...the hair color wouldn't have concerned me.

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  • FutureMrs.L
    Master September 2018
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    .....


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  • C
    Beginner August 2018
    Christina ·
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    If she's getting it up it may actually look very nice? You never know

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  • kel.p
    Savvy October 2019
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    It's a hair color. And it's honestly not bad at all. Let her express herself the way she sees fit.

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  • Erin
    Super October 2018
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    She's not your Barbie doll. She's a grown woman and should be standing beside you because of your friendship, not her appearance.

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  • C
    Beginner August 2018
    Christina ·
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    I just tell my bridesmaid as long as you have the right color knee length and gold shoes hair and style of dress and shoe doesn't matter to me.

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  • Caitlin
    Dedicated October 2018
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    She's gonna look like a bad ass!

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  • Stephanie
    Devoted October 2018
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    I recently went to a wedding where the bride forced her BM to dye her hair blonde. She previously had some purple tones to it. BM spent a majority of the night complaining because people kept commenting on how she changed her hair. "Yeah, I was actually told I had to change my hair. Almost as if she was ashamed of how I normally look, just an extra $150 I didn't plan to spend. No big deal"

    Don't tell her to change her hair, and if you do, you better be offering to front that bill...

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  • Kinkerb
    Dedicated August 2018
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    I say pick your battles here, I think you should just wait it out. A lot can change in 8 months

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  • C
    Beginner August 2018
    Christina ·
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    Yes she is. I like the color. My hairs plain old brown

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  • Jennifer James
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    Blue and pink go well together. My MoH had pink hair IIRC correctly and I told her she could keep it, but she bleached it out before my wedding. I was actually a little disappointed LOL.

    If your friend likes fun hair, let her be. She's your friend for a reason, I wouldn't ask her to change who she is for her wedding. That includes her hair.

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  • Jennifer
    Devoted August 2017
    Jennifer ·
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    Your BMs are not photo props, they are supposed to be your nearest and dearest and that's why they're standing with you. Blue hair or not, shes your friend, and it would be rude (and insulting) to tell her to dye it something else. Plus that blue and the color of the dress look like they go well. Smiley smile

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  • Mrs.hays
    VIP April 2018
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    Her hair, her decision. Simple as that.

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  • BoudreauToBe
    Master July 2018
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    If she had a huge birthmark on her face would you make her surgically remove it?

    Her hair is how she expresses herself, much like yours is the way you express yourself. It's an extension of a person's body. If you're making her change it, you're basically saying "I don' like who you are."

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  • Light Haired Girl
    Expert February 2018
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    Her hair is pretty. Leave her alone.

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  • Melissa
    Master March 2018
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    I wasn't aware hair had to match dress. I'm gonna be fucked.

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