How to properly address wedding invitations

This is a personal choice. You may do Mr. & Mrs. John Smith or Mr. & Mrs. Smith (my preference). No way is right or wrong. Where it gets tricky is when you are addressing people with different last names for those use First Last Name bc you have no choice. Also avoid writing + Guest for plus ones. Try to find out your guests plus one's full name.

Likewise you may do Your First Last name & FH's First Last name or The Future Mr. & Mrs. Williams (my preference). No way is right or wrong.

Thanks! Those are my preferences too. Is it okay to address the guests by names as in John & Leah Smith instead of Mr. & Mrs. Smith?

I went with Mr. & Mrs. John Smith for addressing our guests envelopes. As for the return label I just put our address without our names. When they open it, they'll know who it's from. So for we've sent out of STDs. I was thinking of purchasing as address press for our wedding envelopes

For invitations we did our first and last names with the return address. In most cases I did "Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith" with the exception of a few. We had a few guests with different circumstances and I checked with those people individually to see what their preferences were.

I am very anti mr and mrs john smith, just because you're married doesn't mean you lose your first name or that you aren't as important. I have friends that would be offended by that

I did Mr. & Mrs. John Smith, and for those who aren't married I did Mr. John Smith & Miss. Jane Doe

How you address your envelopes depends on the formality of your event. For a more casual wedding, John and Leah Smith is fine. For formal though, you should use Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Smith. If you don't want to omit the wife's first name, you can use Mrs. Jane and Mr. Jonathan Smith. The man's first and last name should never be separated for formal invitations. ETA "and" should be used only for married couples. Unmarried couples should be listed on two lines, ladies first or alphabetically if two men (formal invitations, of course!)

I'm very anti- Mr. & Mrs. John Smith, just because a woman is married does not mean that she loses her name and becomes his property. I know lots of women who are offended by that.

We stressed about this a lot because i also find "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith" to be old-fashioned and kind of offensive. in the middle of debating what to do with ours, we had received an invitation for a friend's wedding. we realized we had thrown their envelope in the trash without paying any attention to how they had addressed it. we ended up just addressing them to John and Jane Smith with no titles. but the point is that no one will really notice but you, so don't worry too much!

Yes, you can address guests just as John and Leah Smith. It is a little less formal than "Mr. & Mrs." but fine if your wedding is more on the casual side.

For your names, you can just use first names. Jane and John, 25 Oak Lane, etc.

We did Mr. & Mrs. John Smith, and we put Zack & Emma (no last name) for our return address.

I don't know if this is technically "right," but it feels right to me, so I went with it for the STDs: For my contemporaries, I used first names (John and Leah Smith), because it just felt weird and overly formal otherwise (our wedding is not very formal). For parents, my great aunt, etc. (i.e., older generations), I used Mr. and Mrs., with the formatting depending on what I knew about the woman's preference. For example, FH's parents, because I know his mom hates that "Mr. and Mrs. Howard Jones" construct, were "Mrs. Anne and Mr. Howard Jones, Sr." (FH is a Junior).

FWIW, I got a return address stamp that has both of our first names, with my address, since all of the replies will be coming to my house.

I personally hate seeing "Mr. & Mrs. John Smith" because it is like the woman has no name at all. It would annoy me to get something addressed like this, but I am also not changing my last name because I hate the entire tradition of it. I say stick with Mr. and Mrs. Smith (if they have the same last name). Our return address is our first names and our address. This is how I will continue to address things after marriage as well.

I addressed my invitations as Mrs. Jane & Mr. John Smith because I also don't like Mr. & Mrs. Man's Name. It's fine to not use Mr. & Mrs., but it's less formal.

If the last name is a common one (family members with same last names or even same first and last names like Jr. and Sr. - I have about 4 of these in my 150 guest list) I would definitely suggest Mr. and Mrs. John Smith for your sake it is helpful in keeping track of invitations, etc. All of the googling I did led me to believe that "&" is not acceptable. I have no idea why but it is traditionally not acceptable to use such signs, everything should be spelled out just like the date and time on the invitation. But I dont get it and I think to hell with tradition its freaking 2017 so really do what you want! Weddings are so much work anyway and there is no way you will make everyone happy. Well anyway, I failed to do this for a few of my long distance relatives (including first and last name in addressing) in Spain whose addresses I don't know by heart so I found myself getting confused and not remembering whose invitation I did/didn't do so if you are assembling yourself I recommend having a spreadsheet and checking off whenever you complete an invitation or go down a list 1 by 1 and have as many names as possible on there to serve as clear identifiers.

Thanks girls! I did some research into etiquette and it seems that it really isn't as big of a deal anymore. I personally strongly dislike the "Mr. & Mrs. John Smith" format because it feels really sexist and Idk..it just doesn't sit well with me. Still contemplating if I should write "Mrs. Leah and Mr. John Smith" or just Leah and John Smith (which is how I addressed the Save-the-Dates- oops). My wedding is indeed very formal & I don't want to send the wrong impression.

We did ours formally using Mr. & Mrs. John Smith. For us we put Ms. Erin Wood & Mr. Clay Walker. For those not married we put Mr. John Smith & Ms. Jackie Kennedy. We added & Family for those with kids. We use Mrs. & Mrs. And Mr. & Mr. as needed.

My personal preference is to lose the titles. I've never liked how you have to differentiate between married and unmarried women with Ms. and Mrs. And especially in today's world, there are so many unmarried couples or other "untraditional" relationships that just make the etiquette here feel dated. That being said, I will address older relatives as Mr. and Mrs.

I personally hate Mr. and Mrs. John Smith. I've had so many Christmas cards addressed to "The Future Mr. and Mrs. John Smith" and it's infuriating. I'm undecided on taking my husband's last name, but I'm definitely not taking his first name. I would love for this to die already.