How to Nicely tell people they aren't invited!

So I didn't answer your post..but we just didn't invite them. Simple as that. If she brings up the wedding to them..she is going to be the one to tell them "Oh my bad..you can't come..I'm an idiot." Haha..sorry I've just had it up to my ears with her! FMILizza anyone :-)

We are in a similar boat. My fiancee and I decided to only invite around 40 people because of cost constraints. We upset a lot of people including coworkers and friends. But at the end of the day I get rather pissed when people assume they are just coming and we tell everyone it is for very close friends and family only and we wish to celebrate our wedding with those whom we rely on in life. Most people get the hint. She is actually a lot less nice about it then I am. My fiancee is very blunt with her opinion, like a brick to the forehead.

Same problem! My coworkers keep assuming they are coming and asking me when it is, what time, and where, so I keep lying and saying we haven't made the official plans yet!

Lol @ jonathahn brick in the forehead. whatever gets the point across lol. thank u all so much. i think we are still gonna make a note like on the invites that they are invitation only or something. i dunno if thats tacky but yeah and then just tell them in person about the sorry small budget close family thing. itll prolly still make ppl upset but i guess if they really care about us theyll understand.

OMG!!!! My parents and I got into it about this. I was like we are on a budget and we want to still have a beautiful wedding. I refuse to sacrifice things my fiancé and I want just to invite more people that are not even close to us. These are friends of the family and not my friends.

I am very thankful of the earlier posts discussing how to nicely tell people they are not invited.

Well I don't know if this can be helpful. We are having our ceremony and reception in two different places. Everyone is invited to the ceremony but the reception is for close friends and family. We sent out invitations for the ceremony but those attending the reception were sent an email and told they were limited to who they could bring and had to RSVP in order to be on the list.

Yeah our reception and ceremony are in the same spot so we cant do the separate invite thing unfortunately. as for getting into it with family about it. havent gotten into any fights really but my granma and my fh family all have people THEY want to invite and its just tough trying to please everyone. but will definitely just have someone at the door i guess and have the arranged seating to avoid ppl just showing up. but right now we arent really even announcing to people that were married just yet just to avoid having to have these awkward conversations! lol