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Just Said Yes October 2019

How to have a wedding when you are already married?

Sandra, on September 26, 2018 at 9:18 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 10
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Me and my husband has been married for almost a year now. Friends from the USA ( i moved from overseas) and my family know, however acquaintances and friends from back home don’t know since I haven’t talked to them for a while. I haven’t posted anything about being married on social media. My question is should I announce publicly on social media about our marriage from almost a year ago? Should I just post it like it happened now? Should I just avoid posting and let it be until next year? Will friends from back home be hurt? How to bring it up? I’m planning to do a wedding ceremony where we can invite friends and family next year so that would be two years of married. I haven’t decided if doing the wedding here or back home.

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Latest activity by Kiwibride, on September 27, 2018 at 10:39 PM
  • Kat
    Expert September 2019
    Kat ·
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    Definitely let the people you plan to invite know. You don't want to decieve them, but you can still also have the wedding you want. We'll have been married legally for 1 year when we have our actual wedding. Everyone who needs to know (our intended guests) knows we are legally married.

    I'm sure the ones you care about most will understand that you didn't want to make a huge announcement over social media.
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    Just Said Yes October 2019
    Sandra ·
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    How should I bring it up though? And what should I say if they ask why didn’t I tell them before? I feel bad for that but I just wasn’t ready or was kinda undecided on what to do.
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  • plangalCG
    VIP May 2018
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    Id send printed marriage announcements and say you hope to celebrate with everyone when you are back home (or whenever that is).
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    Master January 2019
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    I have a friend who got married and said nothing, I'm sure their parents knew. And then on their 1 yr anniversary made some post on Facebook. They had been engaged for a while and didn't have the money to throw the party everyone wanted/expected.
    As a friend I wasn't hurt because it was just a small thing. I was excited for them. So don't feel bad and if they ask why you didn't tell them you can just tell them you only told your parents. You don't have to go into detail
    Their situation is different as they never had a party as you are planning. I like what PP suggested in sending an announcement:
    Hey were married, now come celebrate with us! Something nicer than that, but you get the point.
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  • Kat
    Expert September 2019
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    Marriage announcements are a good idea. If anyone needs any further explanation than that, well frankly, you don't owe it to them. You have your reasons on why you haven't told anyone. If you did want to answer though, just say we wanted to enjoy each other before we made an announcement. Or, like PP said, we wanted to wait until we were closer to having our big ceremony to let people know.
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  • DC Wife 10.27.18
    Master October 2018
    DC Wife 10.27.18 ·
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    You absolutely need to tell the people you are inviting. A marriage announcement is a good idea. Also, you already had a wedding. This would be a vow renewal and celebration of marriage, not a wedding and reception.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    You could send them wedding announcements? Or just post it on Facebook. I'm sure they will understand!

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    Just Said Yes October 2019
    Sandra ·
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    The thing is part of me doesn’t want my acquaintances on Facebook that are not friends or family to know that about my life because honestly I realized that they should not even be on social media and that’s why I haven’t posted on it. I would delete them but I don’t have the time and energy to do it so I like the idea of sending individual announcements but I don’t know how that works. Is it like a card? If I where to text or video call them how should I bring it up?
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  • WorthTheWait
    Devoted December 2018
    WorthTheWait ·
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    It sounds like you are planning a vow renewal/celebration of marriage since you are already married, right? For now, I would just send out announcements that you are married. Yes, they are a card. You can find many examples for wording, etc. on various websites.
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  • Kiwibride
    Super November 2018
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    Announcements would work well or if you send holiday cards then you could mention it there as an update about what happened in the last year
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