How to get over post wedding regrets

Thanks for the encouraging words and compliments ladies! They are really helping me feel better I haven't talked to a lot of my guests very few really live near me so I haven't been able to hear people's reactions really. My Mother in Love has pointed out where I went wrong with the DOC. We never sat down and discussed what exact duties she would have in entirety. We discussed most elements of the wedding except logistical things which she gave the impression that she would be handling as well. There was lack of communication on my part by not getting a crystal clear understanding of what shes was volunteering to do for me and for not knowing to ask certain questions, it was a lack of communication on her end for not making sure I knew certain things were going to be on me to arrange and not letting me know all of the things she needed to make her job easier and runs smoother on the day as she's the one who does this often. She is a planner that has done tons of weddings I've been to since a child including my Moms wedding when I was 14. Ive learned a valuable life lesson not to assume anything and always be very direct with people about what my expectations are leaving nothing to chance or interpretation.

Thanks for all of the kind words and encouragement it's really helping me feel better. There were around 200 people total. My mother in law has pointed out where I went wrong with DOC we never sat down and went over detail by detail what she would be doing for me. She made assumptions of things I had taken car of and I made assumptions of things she had taken care of and there wasn't enough communication certain questions I didn't know to ask ect.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way, Ashley! I was really going through this, too, but now it's starting to fade away. Your pictures are great! I can't wait to get mine back, because I basically missed the whole wedding (what with taking pics during cocktail hour, and running around greeting everyone after that), and all I can remember is what I was stressed out about. Which was A LOT. But everyone I spoke to had a great time; it was at the expense of my sanity, but it was a success! Once I hit the 1 month mark post-wedding, I started feeling a lot better. I think your regrets will get replaced by other memories over the next few weeks, months, etc

Thanks, These aren't my professional pictures I'll be sure to tell everyone they did a great job with their phones and such. I can't wait to get those back either!! I'm supposed to get them tomorrow!!! ??????

Those question marks were supposed to be smiley faces lol

There are two ways things go at a wedding:

* They go right.

* You end up with a great story to tell your children and grandchildren.

Try to focus on the fact that over the long term, your wedding will just fall into the latter category. After several years of marriage, not even you will really care how it went.

I totally get how you're feeling...you have a vision, put time, money and energy into it. When it doesn't go exactly as planned, it can feel pretty bad, even if no one but you noticed. I know it happened to me. For me, focusing on the moments where I was happiest help cloud out the little seeds of doubt and disappointment. And as someone else said, hearing that your guests had a good time is a great boost. Your wedding looked beautiful, congratualtions and I hope you start to feel better.

My dear friend, your expressions are real and true and from the heart. I'm not sure if any sentiments can truly put to rest the realness of how you feel. Every bride like myself wants a perfect day but the reality is we are all imperfect. I think we could probably start a team of brides on the topic "What would you have changed on your wedding day?!" The topic would go viral literally on the right platform Lol!!! I normally don't respond to these things but you touch me with your words and so the only thing I will say to you is, ACCEPT everything you feel with your head high! Your Hubby wanted yalls special day perfect especially for YOU!But understand that such a pressure-filled moment that none of us could rehearse down to the T needed to be handled the way you handled that. In fact think about it like this, you did get back your peace by leaving, think back to that moment, did you not feel a form of relief, I imagine you breathed a sigh of mental/emotional relief. You did what you *needed* to do Girlfriend! Who knows what the tension would have did to you if you had stayed 4-Real.Since now is the future, why not create that moment on a Anniversary of your choosing and Design!!! Many people have anniversaries with planners and what you can do is not only invite the same people who came to your wedding, but create a video of the Happy moments like the beautiful picture with you and your Hubby!Thats Real!Or even a simple picture collage because those moments taken in those pictures is real happiness and tells a positive story. In that way all who was at your wedding and even you yourself can have that night to focus on what's truly important that you have your husband someone who completes you!And you rock out that night making the happiest moments you had on that day, bringing your family together, seeing ones you haven't seen in awhile, overwhelming support...show that!It will last just as long as the memories from that day! And definitely have Bomb-Diggity food and a DJ Girlfriend!!!! Excuse me for being so long-winded but if you remember anything for what I'm saying:Create gorgeous moments for the future in what your wedding day truly accomplished, 'A Union of Matrimony'
Thats a blessing to Focus On.

Omg I feel the same way! I had 0 coordinator and when I say that EVERYTHING WENT WRONG down to the smallest detail I wish I was exaggerating. I planned everything with extra time and so carefully for NOTHING and the entire time I was a ball of stress and I was rude to all my friends and groom because I was freaking out and on top of that I was so stressed that I didn’t eat and I had a bunch of champagne (I barely ever drink) so j blacked out during our reception so I barely remember it at all. I basically can’t think about my wedding without being upset and regretting the whole thing. I don’t know what to do with myself

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Gosh! I'm not the only one having nightmares about the wedding!

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No, you are not alone!! Its definitely a process of grieving what you thought it would be and redirecting your focus to all of the positives about the day. Over time that will be what you will think of. My wedding was absolutely beautiful and I was looking forward to a fabulous and fun party to top off the occasion and I didn't get that, but the wedding (most important part) was flawless! I will likely do a very nice vow renewal party at 15 or 20 years where I don't have to lift a finger to plan and can have it exactly how I want with no limits. The only real regret is many of the family that were at my wedding are no longer with us so they wouldn't be able to attend the renewal but all in all time heals all wounds. I'm still happily married and welcomed a baby boy last year! All is well

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Oh I see you just said yes. Please if you go the wedding route hire plenty of staff that will handle all of the details, day of coordinator, clean up, get a venue that is as all inclusive as possible so you don't even have a lot of details to worry about, give your bridesmaids and family clear instructions you are not to be bothered the day of and days leading up to the wedding and they need to speak with your staff. Focus on having everything done so you can enjoy and soak in every moment. Its such a special feeling and time that only really happens once. Overall spend the money for peace of mind and if you don't have it maybe consider a simple ceremony and a nice honeymoon and revisit the wedding later in life. Just my two cents. Best of luck to you!