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How to get over my nightmare wedding day?

Meghan, on June 15, 2023 at 3:51 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 2

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I have been dreaming about my wedding day for 20+ years, and spent the last 2 years planning my wedding.

The week of my wedding, I find out they were closing part of the freeway to my venue for construction. At first, I didn’t think it would be a huge deal and we would just need our shuttles to leave a bit earlier as they would have to use a detour. It is only a 20 minute ride but we had the shuttles leave 1.5 hours before the ceremony to be “safe”.
To make a long story short - it took FOUR hours for the shuttle to arrive (carrying 80% of my guests). I tried to push the ceremony back as long as possible but it was getting dark so I was forced to have my ceremony without the guests on the shuttles. Since we waited so long, it was dark/cold during the ceremony AND the cello I hired for my processional had to leave for another gig. We no longer were able to have a cocktail hour or take sunset photos because that’s when the guests arrived and we had to go straight to dinner.
The rest of night went fine and guests said they had a great time but I can’t help but feel heartbroken when I think about the day. I want to be happy when I think about my wedding but right now it is so painful. Any advice or words of encouragement? I really hope one day I can laugh about this nightmare but for now I can’t stop thinking about how my big day was robbed from me.

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Latest activity by Dani, on July 7, 2023 at 6:34 PM

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Kimberly · on June 15, 2023 at 9:07 AM
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Four hours?!? No wonder you were upset!!! Do you know if it was really the detour that took that long or if the shuttle company somehow messed up? Regardless, it sounds like your guests were super gracious once they showed up and didn’t take it out on you that they’d been trapped on the shuttle for that long. I would try to focus on the positives (the night ended with a lovely party, you got to marry your partner and this is ultimately about the marriage, not the wedding; you had some of your loved ones present, presumably your immediate family and closest friends who were in the bridal shower; hopefully you loved your look for the day and got some beautiful pictures out of it). It’s totally valid for you to be upset about this, though, and I would find out if the shuttle company messed up because then there might be actual steps you can take. You can also book another photo session with your photographer at sunset, either now or as an anniversary treat.
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Dani · on July 7, 2023 at 6:34 PM
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This comment is late, but I'm so sorry it worked out that way!
This might not be a helpful suggestion, but maybe you want to do a special anniversary party for your one-year anniversary, where you kinda re-create a mini ceremony for all those who had to miss out (like a vow renewal but after only a year). You don't have to have the whole wedding party processional, but just have a nice ceremony-like moment surrounded by the people you love. I think everyone who knows what happened on the wedding day will 100% understand why you'd want to re-create and re-claim one of the most important days of your life, and share it with the people you originally intended to be there.
Get dressed up in a white dress even if it isn't a wedding dress and hire a photographer. Maybe even hire the cello again like you wanted to have. While it probably wouldn't make financial sense to book an actual wedding venue, you can still find a beautiful place to do it. The logistics might be too much to make this anniversary party worth it, but just a thought.
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