How to "Do Gender" On the Big Day!

I would definitely add a pop of color with your tie or bow tie, that would look great!

I think by you asking....you, yourself are confused.

Be who you are. Who you always are. What do you wear when you dress up or go out? Don't worry about what other people think.

This thread is a bit confusing to me. I noticed you said "I just don't have a gender." But then, you go on to ask how to display the correct gender so as not to confuse your guests. I'm just not understanding what someone means by saying they don't have a gender...that's not really possible.

Moving on-- you are asking for opinions here, and I think ultimately YOU know yourself best. Go with your gut, rock whatever look makes you happy. And don't let anyone ruin your day, because the only thing that truly matters on this day is your happiness. Not anyone's questions or ideas, just your happiness along with your significant other.

I agree with most, you have a little over a year, so play, experiment and see what YOU like the best! Try coloring your mohawk with a suit then try some bling in the mohawk and Def try the shoes lol. Just keep trying what YOU like and want and when you find what is YOU you will know! JUST DO YOU!!!!!!

So much good advice - I can see I have a lot of fun dress-up in my future haha thanks all for the ideas! This neutrois, gender-free, nonbinary spouse-to-be is excited to mix and match and come up with the perfect look for the big day

Like a lot of the previous posters have said, do you Try a bunch of different options and wear what makes you feel the best and most like yourself on your wedding day!

Also - here are 2 great articles with attire ideas!

How to Craft a Truly Gender-Neutral Suit

Saying Yes To Bridal Pants

I honestly think you should just be true to you and who you are as long as your comfortable

I think you should try not to worry about how people will view you and just wear whatever makes you feel the best. I know that's hard to not think about what others think. But try to solely make the decision on what makes you feel good.

One of my colors is lavender too!! Love it! There's so much good advice on here already, but I just want to echo everyone and say wear whatever the hell you want! You said you like makeup, so I would highly recommend wearing makeup because it helps everyone's facial features stand out in professional pictures. Personally, I absolutely love the look of white or pastel color suits on men/women/gender non-conforming. (I'm currently trying to get my FH to pick a suit color other than black lol). If you also like flowers, hold a bouquet. Do what makes you happy because no matter what, someone is always going to have something negative to say

Do what you like--you can never go wrong! If you do this, it was always be an expression of you.

@NerdBride - we're definitely going to have a gender-neutral ceremony! The guests will sit audience-style and we'll walk in from either side of the front of the room, not just one "bride" walking down a central aisle. There will be no gendered language in the ceremony, either.

Full support to you regarding your family - a lot of my family isn't invited because of how they view me and treat me, and because I'm honestly afraid of them. It's rough and you're not alone. Kudos to your FH for understanding how much that gesture would mean to you!

My wife didn't dye her hair, but she was wearing gorgeous braided Mohawk http://africanamericanhairstyling.com/black-braided-mohawk-hairstyles/ (pic. 9), and I wanna tell you it was really amazing and everybody was really shocked! It was a great experience! What I want to say, no matter how you look like and what is your gender, the main thing is that you must be a HUMAN first of all!

As a nonbinary person myself I completely understand your asking for an androgynous outfit ideas just remember nonbinary doesn't equal androgyny it's what makes you feel most comfortable buuuuut for an androgynous outfit ideas you could wear lavender slacks and blazer a more feminine white blouse underneath braid your mohawk wear gold earing and gold feminine shoes and maybe a lavender eyeshadow look good rule of thumb for everyone masculine peice wear a feminine so it's nicely balanced