We've lived together for a while, and both had our own places before that. We don't need any house things, but people still want to give us gifts. I was thinking of adding this to the invites since we have a kid;
"We already have a home together, we do not need matieral things. If you'd like to give us something, give us fun date nights or new experiences we can do together as a married couple and as a family!"
Thirding that there's no need to mention it. And if anyone asks where you are registered or what you would like, you are free to say that you aren't registered anywhere but you are saving up for X (e.g., a family vacation, amusement park passes, date nights).
It is so odd to me, that even though EVERYONE is going to want to know or ask, that it is "rude" to let everyone know collectively NOT to provide a useless gift, when everyone knows wedding gifts are a thing. Guess my family is different than the rest of society, I'd rather be told what someone wants than have to guess lol.
Most people don't bring physical gifts to weddings anyway. I've never seen a physical gift at a wedding, except for one at my own, that was intended to be used during the reception. People don't typically show up at weddings with toasters that the couple didn't ask for. Everyone is well aware that cash is a good gift without being told.
We did a very small registry at Target for some small things and then on our website, where everyone will be RSVP'ing, I added "A Little Note of Gifts: The most important thing is to have you with us on our special day. No gifts are needed or expected, however, we have been asked what we need or what we would like,so we have registered at Target. And, if you do wish to give us something, please consider helping usbuildour future together; gift cards for Home Depot would be greatly appreciated."
I added the part about "building our future" because we own our home and we're going to be renovating it after the wedding. As someone mentioned about, my family/friends all agreed that it was okay to share what we actually want/need on our website. I'd rather know what someone REALLY needs than buy them something useless.
This exactly. People already know money is a good gift, without being told. There are so.many posts here made about gifts, how to get them, how to get more of them, how to tell people what to get, and really, the simplest answer is the best one: don't mention them at all; if anyone asks, tell them what you are saving up for.
So the consensus is to not put any mention of gifts on the invitation. But it's OK to mention it on the website or by word of mouth.
We didn't put anything on our website about gifts and now we've had a bunch of people ask us where we're registered or what they can buy us. We didn't think we'd get so many questions, because everyone on WW advised that people would just 'get it' and would bring cash. LOL it turns out people like a little more instruction.
So I'd mention it on your wedding website, the same way you did here. That you don't need anything, per se, but would love to have experiences. Then people will KNOW you mean money and won't be bugging you for the weeks leading up to the wedding. It's definitely an awkward conversation to have with someone. "We don't need anything, but your money is greatly appreciated. Thanks! Byeeee!"
Most invitations that I've personally received came with a registry card, providing the information with the registry information. I've been invited to "cash showers" where there wasn't a registry so in lieu of the registry card, they provided a little poem saying that. I think that would apply in your case. I know I prefer a registry over a cash shower but I REALLY like how you're asking for experiences/date nights. I think guest can get creative with that and honestly it could be more cost effective than the typical registry items. Personally, I look for the registry card so I don't think it would be rude if you added the extra "experience card".