How to ask for money if we can't take physical Gifts with us?

John I am in a similar situation. I second what most people have said and would suggest you to spread your situation by word of mouth. I will also contradict myself and say that if you know your guests and they won't have qualms with "no boxed gifts" on your wedding website or save the date or whatever go for it. I'm not adverse to this as a guest.

I hope that you resolve this, I know there isn't an easy answer. If there was we wouldn't be asking on here. Be well and best wishes!

I honestly like your poem, its cute and creative and doesn't really mention anything about "give us cash give us cash" .

So, I say it wouldn't hurt to put the poem on your website, and then hopefully your guests will just get the hint to give you money and not a boxed gift.

Not registering and spreading the word is a great option. Also, if you have people coming to your wedding who will lose their minds if you don't register, I will second Harmony's opinion that you should consider a small registry on Zola. It's great, and you can choose to delay shipment on everything (someone got me a gift on there back in September and it's still holding for me). You can also choose to receive the equivalent in cash if you realize at some point while it's holding that it's not worth the shipping fees to try to send it to you.

I think the poem is cute. Initially I was thinking absolutely nothing about gifts, but then you mentioned the website. I think it would be fine to say you and your fiancee are not registering for gifts as you cannot take them with you. I wouldn't say anything about cash. Do you have a favorite charity? Maybe you could say in lieu of gifts please donate to XYZ charity?

I'll echo what many others have said, just don't register for gifts. Hopefully the people you invited are close enough to know you're moving out of the country soon, and aren't trying to transport gifts.

I like the poem and I think it's fine to include it on things. I don't find it tacky or inappropriate since it doesn't mention money or gifts - it's just letting people know that you are moving.

as for actual registry, I wouldn't mention it on the website and tell the family big mouth to spread the word on what the situation is.

you know your family and friends,people I know wouldn't have a issue with something like a honeymoon registry or something like that if you prefer.

I know that many people feel that the rules are one size fits all, but I don't. my family hates regular registries and they don't like shopping for gifts- they like the trip ones.

do what you know will make you and yours happy.

btw- I bet if you showed that poem to some family and friends they would love it!