How to address invitations?

Since you want it a little non traditional I would say go with:

Mr. Robert Smith

Mrs. Donna Smith

123 Green Street

Anytown, State 12345

For families you could put:

The Smith Family

123 Green Street

Anytown, State 12345

Http://www.mygatsby.com/wedding_invitations/etiquette/proper_addressing_inner_outer.jsp

Check this site out. I found it to be extremely helpful!

FYI: the wording on my invitations is slightly more traditional:

(Angela's parents) Dad and Mom along with (Chris's parents) Dad and Mom (first and last names for each, no salutation) invite you to join in celebrating the marriage of their children Angela N... M... and Christopher R... R... on October third two thousand and ten at half past three in the afternoon Overhills Mansion... (address) Reception to follow

Here you go:

http://www.wedalert.com/content/articles/address_invitations.asp

I get invites/holiday cards addressed sometimes in crazy ways and I just figure the person doesn't know any better. I think it's always better to do it the proper way.

Thanks T&J, those are probably the options I will go with!

Jenn- this site is great. Looks like, however, for the outer envelope the only option is to list the woman by her husband's name, hmmm I am clearly breaking many rules here!

BTW- I am not having an inner envelope. Just outer envelope, invite, RSVP card and RSVP envelope.

If a man and woman are married and she has taken his last name, than I would suspect she is used to seeing the more traditional "Mr & Mrs Robert Smith" on formal correspondence, such as wedding invitiations. I think where you would be crossing lines, is if you knew a woman maintains her maiden name after marriage, and still adressed an invitation to "Mr & Mrs Robert Smith." Even then I don't know of too many women who would be overly upset.

The fact is, weddings do have a lot of the traditional about them. It sort of comes with the territory. Unless you are having an extremely casual wedding, you are probably safer doing the traditional thing - at least in regards to the outer envelope. Now, if you have an inner envelope, that can be far more casual, if you desire!

I wanted my invitations to be more formal...unlike my save the dates where I also just used first and last names. With our invitations I addressed them as Mr. & Mrs. Darryn Goodnow and since there is a teenager there, underneath Mr. & Mrs. Darryn Goodnow I put Ms. Brianna Goodnow..then their address underneath the set of names.With couples in a relationship I put Mr. Fran Collins & Ms. Heather Devlin..and then for those who I wasnt sure who they were bringing I put Ms. Kristin Crandall & Guest. I was confused on how to do it, but my wedding coordinator told us that the way I did it above is the formal way to do it. But, I guess personal opinion is all that matters. Whatever you feel comfortable doing is what you should do.

Thanks for this post

Does anyone know what to do if a woman is divorced but kept her married name? Is it Ms. Or Mrs? Or if the husband is deceased? Ms. Or Mrs.?