How strict are you with your bridesmaids attire/accessories?

I requested simple silver/white gold jewelry for them...they pick what they want to wear. I just don't one showing up with huge hoops or super sparkly dangling earrings.

I gave them a few dresses to choose from in the same color/fabric, and told them to do whatever for shoes, hair, make-up, jewelry, whatever else. I have no interest in them looking like total clones.

I'm like you! I'm very laid back in regards to those types of things but more strict on things like starting on time. I added will start PROMPTLY at 4:30 to our invitations :-/.

I think I am very lose. The only thing I dictated was their dress and I am paying for it. I am also paying for their makeup and instructed the MUA to keep it fitting for the overall formality (glam but natural) but otherwise told them to make them look like their best self (no she must have red lips, or she must have smokey eyes), the only consistency I care about with makeup is us all looking gorgeous. Hair I let them pick their own hair style, same with nails. For shoes I told them nude, champagne or light pink. Their dresses are floor length so the shoes shouldn't be seen much (if at all) but just in case they are I wanted them to go with neutral/complimenting colors. For accessories I purchased their earrings, told them not to wear a necklace only bc of the cut of their dress, and told them they can wear whatever other jewerly they wanted as long as it doesn't distract from the wedding color scheme (like a bold blue bracelet). I would have let each of them pick their own dress but its so many I thought it might be too much. PLUS there is always ONE person who wants to do something outside of your lose guidelines (wear a short dress when you asked for long, where a pink dress when you asked for purple). My aunt got remarried in 2014, let each BM pick their own dress her only requirement was purple dress and silver shoes. One BM wore bone colored shoes and besides the fact that the shoes were ugly, they completely did not go with the wedding colors. My aunt actually had the photographer photoshop the color.

Everyone in the same dress. I will request shoes/nails in the same color, but they don't have to. I will buy jewelry. I can't stand saying everyone has to have the same hair and makeup.. Everyone looks best in different things, especially with makeup.

I'm using a convertible dress, so they'll all be the same color and length, but my bridesmaids can dictate how they want to style it. They tried it on and agreed to the color before ordering. I've asked for metallic or nude shoes in whatever they are comfortable in! I'm paying for hair and makeup as a thank you, and I'm letting them choose what they want! The reason they're in your wedding (& life) is because of how special they are to you! You don't want to forget that!

The only requirement is that they wear the same dress but they all voted and picked one they all liked. Aside from that, I could care less. They all have great taste in style and look great 99% of the time so I don't think any of the 7 will show up that day looking ridiculous.

I was in a wedding where the bride wanted everyone to match. We had to have our hairs a certain style and run the design by her first. We had to get professional makeup and only certain shades of everything like nail polishes, lipsticks, and eye shadow, without contouring (I didn't even know that was a thing). We had to run our accessories by her. She told us they had to be yellow but any shade so I now own yellow shoes even though we had long (and expensive) dresses so nobody noticed. We were required to wear jewelry and I hate jewelry. We weren't allowed to leave the hotel room the day of the wedding because she didn't want anyone to see us till we walked down the aisle. The thank you gift was a shawl to wear if we wanted at the reception and a bag with her initials, again for the reception. I spent almost $2,500 on that wedding since she required we stay in rooms next to her (and she was in a suite) and was specific about where she wanted her bridal shower and bachelorette which were in expensive locations.

We picked a dress together, and they picked their shade of purple. Other than that, I'll likely just show them a picture from my hair trial and ask them not to match it, but everything else is up them.

The word "strict" is just weird using when discussing bridesmaids. Sounds like a parent/child topic.

I picked the designer (within what I hope was a reasonable budget since they refused to give me one... "whatever you want me to wear") and color. They picked their dress styles. Hair and make-up will be available if they want a professional to do it. But totally up to them. We haven't discussed shoes, but I think black should be easy enough and they are in long dresses so no one will see them anyway. All 3 BMs got their measurements/payments in and dress orders were placed today. So far, so good.

I have my sister as my MOH and that's all. I let her choose the dress, I picked the color but took her feelings into consideration (she didn't want a dark blue so we went with light blue). She was shopping back home and so she texted me pics of each one, I thought they were all fine. Fortunately my sister has pretty classy taste. I knew she wouldn't pick something crazy. I have been trying to get ideas from her on hair, accessories, etc but she just tells me "whatever the bride wants". I'd rather she actually tell me! So I've given up and just ordered a necklace/bracelet that I hope will match the dress and bought some little flowers to put in her hair and have chosen a style for her. I'm paying for the hair/mu as she's just lost her job and I know money was tight even before then.

I picked out a dress that's under $50, will take a picture of the mockup flowers so the bm's can plan their hair, makeup, shoes and jewelry accordingly and based off whatever they want to do.

I determined the dress. I did pick out shoes but they sold out so as long as they are silver Im fine with it. I dont care about hair and as long as their nails arent outrageous I dont care about that either

I chose two dresses and my 4 bridesmaids took a vote on which they preferred. They're going to wear gold sandals since it's a beach wedding. Outside of that they can do what they want regarding hair, nails, & accessories.

I'm basically letting them do whatever they want. I told my MOH that she could pick whatever dress she wanted. I did tell the bridesmaids the color that I wanted and I requested that they all agree on a dress that has straps as some of the girls are bigger in the chest and I don't feel that it would be appropriate for them to wear strapless dresses. Otherwise, I don't really care. I gave them a color for shoes as well, but again, anything in that color is fine. I haven't really given much thought to hair though. I probably should as one of my bridesmaids has pink hair and regularly shaves it into a mohawk..

I'm having the girls look uniform I guess you'd call it. I picked out the dress, the hairstyle that they're all going to have, and the shoes that they're all going to wear. I also have the MUA but I told her they can decide how they want their own makeup but they can't wear glitter only I can. They can pick their own accessories too. I just want everything to look nice. I don't want one girl to have blue shoes and another in gold shoes or whatever. And I want them to have their hair in an updo because mine will be down. I guess I'm being controlling when it comes to how I want them to look but oh well it's my day so they'll live for one night

I didn't give them any rules-- I had a plum, short blond, a tall, thin blond, a tall, thin Asian and a medium brunette-- there's no WAY I could pick anything that would flatter them all in color or style, so I just said, "Wear what you want. And if you never wear the dress again, it's not my fault!" My wedding would never be featured on someone's website, but my friends were happy and comfortable, and that's what really mattered to me.

I let them wear whatever. I wanted them to feel comfortable and pretty and be happy o be there. My wedding would never be featured on someone's website, but my friends were happy, and that's what matters.

I am giving just a color family and dress length (long) and that is it! Maybe I will change my mind closer to the day, but I can't imagine telling my best friends exactly how they should look according to my secret Pinterest dreams. I know they'll look beautiful no matter what!

They're all wearing the same dress but I'm not dictating how they have their hair done or whether or not they get makeup done. I am providing all jewelry except earrings, so they have the choice to wear silver, diamond, or pearl studs or nothing at all. I also don't care what their shoes look like as long as they're a nude shade. I'm buying them robes to wear the morning of, too.

When it comes to nails, hair color, etc. I don't care at all. I want them to feel as pretty as possible!!

All my BM are buying the same dress, and I plan on getting them earrings to wear. Other than that, I told them gold or nude shoes, pick a hairstyle and makeup they liked.