How much to spend on bridesmaids including their hair and makeup?

If you are requiring them to get their makeup and/or hair done, you have to pay.

If you are requiring certain shoes, you need to pay for them.

If you're requiring them to have it done, you pay for it. It's a not a "gift", it's a prop for your wedding so if you do pay for it you still have to give them a gift.

If it's optional, they can pay for it themselves.

If you are requiring specific shoes, you should be paying for them. If you want their Hair & makeup done a specific way, you should also pay for this. This is NOT a gift. If you don't want to pay these costs, I would recommend 'everyone wear black heals' (or whatever style show you want) & let them pick their own. Please remember though, paying for their hair is not a gift if you're requiring them to get it done. You can give them the option of getting their hair done 'My stylist will have others to help those would would like to have their hair done, the cost is $$ per person'

If you're not going to pay for it, don't require it.

If it's optional they pay. If you want a specific hair style/makeup you pay.

I would let them wear their own shoes unless you are willing to pay for those. no one will notice if the shoes are different.

if hair and makeup are optional, you don't have to pay for it. i'd just give them the option.

i would prefer the bride offer to pay for my hair/makeup than a traditional bridesmaids gift, but that may be an UO on WW.

Is it required? If so - YOU pay for it. That includes hair, makeup, shoes, manicures, jewelry, ect. The only thing they are required to pay for that you specify is the dress.

If you require it, you pay for it

I've requested a specific color for shoes. I don't care about heel height, if the shoes are matte or glossy. Why? Because I'm not paying for it and they can get what they prefer. I am paying for their make up, since I do require they have that done. I left the hair as an optional thing so they can pay for it if they'd like. I also purchased matching jewelry for each girl.

MY BM picked their dress, shoes, jewelry, and whether or not they wanted to use the MUA and hair stylist I arranged for them. They paid for whatever they chose. IMO, it would be too complicated any other way and I couldn't afford it all.

For me personally, I didn't require my MOH to get her hair and makeup? done. I was going to cover it as her gift if she wanted to, but she said she wants to pay for it. So that's the end of that! I will still get her a gift.

If you are requiring it, I would offer to pay.

If you require them to have it done, yes.

Also, your BP isn't required to pay for a shower. At all. All they are required to do is show up in a dress.

If you don't want to pay for their stuff, don't insist that they get those things.

I would be annoyed if I had to purchase a specific pair of shoes for the bride's "vision", especially if I happened to not like them or wouldn't wear them again. If you want them to get their hair and makeup done, you need to pay for it. If you don't care whether or not they get it done, don't worry about it.

Also, hair and makeup isn't a gift. You only are "giving" it to them so they look pretty in YOUR photos. Let them know "if you would like to get your hair/makeup done the HMUA please let me know. It will cost $180 and it's due to the artist by xx/xx".

Wow okay I have never been a bridesmaid so I don't know what they are supposed to pay or not pay for other than the dress. I am not requiring the hair and makeup to be done.. obviously they can't just roll out of bed with the hair...so if I want specific shoes I have to buy them as well?

Yes, you have to buy their shoes if you're requiring them to wear them

Hi nicole! If you want specific shoes I'd purchase them for your bridesmaids, or you can pick an easy color/style that almost everyone owns like "black heels" or "nude shoes".

Since you are not requiring they have their hair and makeup professionally done, you can give them the pricing info and let them each decide for themselves!

Here's a great article from WeddingWire on who pays for what:

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-ideas/etiquette-advice/bride-vs-bridesmaids-who-pays-for-what

Yes, if you want them to have specific shoes you need to buy them.

I told my BMs I don't care wtf kind of shoes they wear but they all kept asking, so I told them neutral colored flat shoes (sandals or flats - doesn't matter). They liked that idea because they could pick out something they wanted, in their own budget, and ensure they'd get something they would wear again.

There are differing opinions on this. I am covering the cost of hair and makeup for all of my girls because I want them all to look equally as nice in photographs. I decided on a specific pair of gold sandals for all of the BMs to wear, and they all loved them so they had no problem paying the $25 for them, because they are shoes that can be worn after the wedding. Also, all of the dresses are floor length and the same color, but they are all different at the top. I don't agree with having all of the BMs wear the same exact dress, especially if they all have different figures.

I have 7 BridesMaides and I am paying for the hair and make up to get done part of the gift because I am not requiring them to wear it a certain way I just want them to have fun and get a style they truly love and feel beautiful in. Now that being said I haven't asked them yet but I know who I want!