How much does your fiancé/husband let you in emotionally?

Not an issue for us at all. We talk about any and everything with no issues at all! 🥰 Emotions included!

I don't think men are hard wired this way, men are socially constructed this way. But gender aside, some people are more sensitive and emotional than others, whereas others tend to be more even tempered and cool, calm, and collected.

My husband is definitely the even-keeled, go-with-the-flow type, and I don't feel like it is issue for us at all. I am a strong communicator, and I tend to feel things deeply and wear my heart on my sleeve. While I am often tactful and pragmatic, I do use a lot of expressive language when communicating in general, so I more often take on the role of facilitating discussions about emotions and feelings with my husband, and I often help frame conversations in ways that enable him to more actively participate. He's very receptive to touchy-feely conversations but they are difficult for him to initiate on his own. He also needs to be in the right mindset to fully engage in really deep conversations about strong emotions because they requires a lot more mental energy for him, since his default mode is not to explore his own deeper feelings.

I LOVE my husband's calm demeanor and his steadiness is so valuable in our relationship, especially when I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. I feel like we balance each other.

Nit an issue fir us anymore. He used to put up a wall but after 5 years together, it slowly came down.

This is definitely not an issue for us. As a matter of fact, my fiancé is definitely the more open and emotional one in our relationship. I am more the even keeled type- not real emotional. I think that actually helps him to be even more open though, because he knows I will not be overly emotional or irrational no matter what he shares.

Actually for us it is the opposite. I'm the one who doesn't let him see much of my emotions. I'm the one who has the wall up. He is very open and lets me see all his emotions and whats going on in his head. I don't think he has ever seen me cry. I had have some pretty bad relationships before him and so I always have a wall up. I lean on my mom a lot but it is hard to lean on him, I know he would always be there for me and have my back every single time. But it's hard to let him in. We don't really have much issues with it, my fiance is very understanding and he knows all about my bad relationship thanks to my brothers for telling him. He tries to break down the walls and does what he can to show support. And I have opened up a little more to him. I don't know for us it hasn't given us any issues it just makes our relationship stronger cause we work as a team to break the walls down.

This used to be a huge issue with us, and almost ended our relationship. He was hiding hurt feelings I had caused years earlier in our relationship, and I never knew my actions had that affect. I had to sit him down and tell him that unless he learns to communicate, we won't work out. Hiding feelings isn't productive, and I'd rather him vent to me and tell me what was wrong, than hide his emotions just because 'society says men can't be emotional' and he doesn't want to look 'weak'.

Needless to say, we are SO much better now, and we are open with our feelings. It's so important to have that open line of communication!

My husband is one of those aha he doesn't want me to see his frustrations and stuff. so sometimes it feels like pulling teeth trying to get him to share

Not an issue for us anymore, it used to be. Sometimes I can tell if he’s in a mood and he’ll eventually talk it out with me while were in bed.

My husband is far superior when it comes to talking about his emotions. I'm the one who has a problem talking about how I am feeling.

My fiance is a soft soul that always wants me to know what he is feeling. We are both completely without walls when we're together.

View Quoted Comment I had to have the same conversation. He said he's never been one to express himself or his feelings and it really bothered me. I would never know how he was feeling unless he was mad/frustrated/annoyed or hurt with me and he just blurted it out during a fight. I said that it's not healthy and I need to know how he feels when he feels that way because if he doesn't tell me then I have no idea so I can't fix anything. He's worked on it but it's still a work in progress and I'm not sure if it will ever be 100%. He's trying at least. He doesn't like to be emotional or seem vulnerable infront of me because he feels like it makes him weak. I totally relate about communication as that is one of our struggles recently as I try to be open and honest but sometimes he's so frustrating and won't let me be open.

I love my fiancé he has the biggest wall up when I comes to anything emotional. He is good with comforting me if I am struggling. He will not talk if something is bothering him. We got engaged in October of 2018 I was about 2 months pregnant. We had a boy. We plan on getting married in 2022 but we rectangle suffered 2 back to back miscarriages. I have cried my eye out struggled so much he has not really spoken at all about it I wish he would. All I know is he want to try again. He will come and talk to me eventually but it takes tons of work to break those walls down. I love him just wish it was not always hard to get him to talk.

Lol, sometimes I WISH he’d keep more things to himself. 😝 I’m the one that tends to keep more bottled up. We’ve both had to work at it.

Men aren't hard-wired, people who grow up in homes where it is discouraged are conditioned to be that way.

DH can sometimes put up a wall, but that's generally because he's put up the wall for himself, and he's avoiding something. At that point, I go full Taurus and start battering it down.

That said, I can sometimes avoid things, too, and then it'll come out sideways (particularly if I'm PMSing, lol).

This is why we both go to therapy!