Latonya
Dedicated November 2019

How many brides are traditional?

Latonya, on June 4, 2019 at 1:08 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 20
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I am kind of traditional in a relationship. I cook for my fiance. I make his lunch. I do alot of the housework. I wouldn't be attracted to a stay at home dad. In fact I'd be entirely turned off. I am attracted to a loyal man that can take lead. I am traditional in most senses except I have a good career. Are there any women out there like me? Seems like most women don't enjoy these tasks. I like taking care of my man at home.

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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
    Sort of. I can't really cook though ahah but I work from home some days and I do like the feel of laundry and household chores. But I would say it's more fun doing them together. I'm also a lot more organized than he is.
  • Emilee
    Dedicated September 2020
    Emilee ·
    I am pretty traditional and agree with you except on the stay at home dad part, he would love to get to stay home with the kids and I would love it too.
  • Shaina
    Devoted October 2020
    Shaina ·

    I am exactly this way. I have a good career and I cook and clean. I enjoy cooking for him and making sure the space is cleaned at all times.( although we live apart I still like a clean room). We are aiming for me staying at home while he works when we have kids for sure lol

  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
    FutureMrsKC ·

    Oh I LOVE being a little Suzy Homemaker! I have an absolutely amazing career and at this point in time I am actually the bread winner of the family as far as income, but my husband works his booty off, too.

    However, I also love to cook, bake, make dinner every night, keep the house clean and organized and I love to decorate and do home improvement projects! Sometimes I'll make my husbands plate for him but overall I'd say I fall to the more "traditional" side. We also live in the south so I think its mostly up-bringing.

    You can 100% be a strong independant woman with goals and a career while also wanting to take care of your home and family.

  • Kelsey
    Super September 2020
    Kelsey Online ·

    My FH and I are mostly this way to. I do most of the housework, which I don't mind. He does help me vacuum I have some shoulder problems that are aggravated by doing the motion with the vacuum cleaner. I make most of the dinners too probably 5/7 of the nights. I love baking. We both have good jobs.

  • Future Mrs. K
    VIP June 2019
    Future Mrs. K ·

    Yes this is definitely me! I LOVE cooking and cleaning lol. That sounds so weird but I truly do. It calms me/relaxes me. I love coming up with new recipes every week, baking, and there is something so therapeutic about cleaning my house every Sunday. I also love decorating a home. I love doing laundry even, not kidding. I also pack my FH's lunch every day, wash his clothes, make his plate for dinner, make sure he has everything he needs every day, etc. I wake up earlier every morning to take care of our pet, make sure the house is all picked up, and get our lunches and water bottles ready before work. I don't want to make it sound like my FH doesn't help out or like he forces me to do these things because that is not the case at all. He never tells me I have to do anything and tells me over and over how much he appreciates all that I do. He is constantly asking me what he can do to help out but I literally just love running a household it is soothing to me. He takes care of the garbage, hanging curtains and décor for me, and all outdoor and mechanical type maintenance.

    With that said, I do have a really, really good job. I work in finance and accounting for a top ivy league university. Great pay, benefits, growth, job security, etc. I work full time and overtime as needed and bring home an income pretty comparable to that of my FH, though he is definitely our breadwinner lol. My FH works 10-12+ hours a day at a very physically demanding job. He also leaves around 4:30AM for work whereas I typically work a more normal 40 hour a week schedule and don't leave until around 7:30. I feel like he works so hard for us all day (as do I but it's very different) so I want him to be able to come home and relax. I love my job but I also love being the homemaker. I think it's all about balance and just doing what makes you happy. You can totally be an independent, driven career woman who loves to run her household.

  • Oriana
    Dedicated May 2020
    Oriana ·
    We are totally the same! I love cooking, cleaning, and doing the housework for my husband
  • Oriana
    Dedicated May 2020
    Oriana ·
    I meant my fiancé lol
  • W-K
    Super October 2019
    W-K ·

    I'm neither traditional nor non-traditional. I'm used to doing it all and FH is teaching me how to accept help. I'm 100% the breadwinner but I'm pretty sure FH is only marrying me for my cooking skills lol. I view it as a team effort, he likes pampering me as much as I like pampering him.

  • Furture Mrs. G
    Expert September 2019
    Furture Mrs. G ·

    I am traditional. I have a career as does he. I make sure home is clean with the exception that he throws the trash and takes care of the outside. Cook every night- If I don't cook I pick us up something to eat. I take care of the children- When he gets home he helps with the children. I def. pack his lunch for the next day. When we decide to have one more child I will be able to stay home for 4 years and be a homemaker even more. I love doing for my family. Overwhelming sometimes but, I enjoy it.

  • Furture Mrs. G
    Expert September 2019
    Furture Mrs. G ·
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    This! I couldn't agree more with the team effort

  • Nemo
    VIP August 2018
    Nemo ·

    Not really. H did all of the cooking while I was in grad school, but now that I'm out of school we split the cooking pretty evenly. He is a far better cook than I am! I keep the inside of the house clean and he takes care of the outside. Not because this is "traditional," but it is because I am meticulous about the inside and he is very passionate about our yard and landscaping lol. We each do our own laundry. If H wanted to be a SAHD, that would be fine, but we both want to have careers based on our own fulfillment and our financial goals as a couple. Just like H would be fine with me being a SAHM, but neither of us are interested in staying home and we prefer it that way. I also have a greater amount of education than my H (masters for me and bachelors for him) but our fields are pretty "gendered." His is mostly men and mine is mostly women. We have a very egalitarian relationship and once I get settled into my full-time career, we will make roughly the same amount of money but my job will have a higher ceiling than his. I wouldn't say we're non-traditional, but we aren't really traditional either. We're fairly modern, but in a moderate way.

  • B
    Super July 2018
    Brittany ·

    I'm pretty traditional as well. He's the breadwinner, I work right now but once my husband gets the promotion he's working towards and we have children I'll be a stay at home mom. I prefer it this way. I feel much more valued and successful at home. I like when my husband tells me "we need this" and I tell him "I bought it its in this cabinet" and he says "Wow I don't have to worry about anything, you take care of everything." I take pride in keeping a clean home. I make dinner every night, I'm not the best cook but my skills have improved a lot. I'm also lucky because my husband is willing to help out - he'll make breakfast on the weekends, and help with cleaning

  • Iva
    Super September 2019
    Iva ·
    Every time I hear about women with good careers (with some even being breadwinners), who also do everything around the house, plus will be or are already primary childcare provider, I can’t help but think they sold themself short, by finding a less able or less willing man, to be their life partner.

    I love cooking & baking & I also earn a lot. But I couldn’t be attracted to a man who is not as capable as I am, or who is ok with me doing everything, or most of the things, in our household, while he is apparently doing nothing or just relaxing lol. Value of my leisure/free time (to read, think, exercise, do my hobbies, or hang out with my family/friends) is the same as value of FHs. And no, housework is not leisure time, no matter how relaxing it is lol. So while it’s totally fine to divide chores & life responsibilities the way it works for the couple (not everyone wants a career, not everyone is good in the kitchen etc. & that’s all ok), they should be divided & not fall on only one partner 🤷🏻‍♀️
  • Nemo
    VIP August 2018
    Nemo ·
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    I agree 100% with this. That type of relationship would breed resentment.

  • FutureMrsC
    Expert October 2019
    FutureMrsC ·
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    Exactly my thoughts.


  • K
    Expert February 2020
    Kristina ·

    I am - I make our food, clean the house (for the most part) and still have a full time job. I have a desk job which can be very stressful however he is on his feet all day in construction and I know his day is more physically on his body then mine, so when he gets home I just want him to rest.

  • Becca
    Devoted October 2019
    Becca ·
    We are unintentionally traditional. My FH has health issues and working all day tends to wear him out. Even though I am the breadwinner, I also do all the cooking and cleaning. I don't love doing everything myself, but I do enjoy many of the home tasks. I like baking and cooking, but I do wish I had more help in the cleaning department. With two animals, the cleaning is a lot, especially this time of year.
  • Shameria
    Dedicated May 2020
    Shameria ·
    We are very similar! I am very traditional too when it comes to relationships ect. We both work and have a 4year old together, He is the bread winner he makes all the money, pays all the bills ect. while i take care of home (him, our son and our home). I cook, clean, laundry all that stuff and i will say i LOVE it! He is very appreciative and makes sure we never want for anything.
  • October2019
    Dedicated October 2019
    October2019 ·
    I didn't think I was. And then I got engaged and realized while we were dating that I liked making him dinner and making his lunches for work. He agreed to be stay at home if we had kids and I wanted to work and I thought I would want to but that isn't so I want to get the one that stays home. I also have a great job and make more. We cook together some nights which I also enjoy but I think once we live together I will probably do most of the cooking and he will do most if the cleaning. I do most of the planning for big things like funding an apartment etc and handle finances. It really just seems like we each do what we enjoy primarily and if I know there is something he doesn't like I will do it and vice versa.

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