How long do you want to wait/did you wait to have kids after marriage?

My FI and I are waiting roughly 2-3 years after we get married. Because once you have kids theres no going back for another 18 years lol. Plus we want to be emotionally/financially prepared. TBH I dont really see a disadvantage to waiting. If we get pregnant right away it wont be the end of the world, but I think being able to enjoy eachother and start saving up for things would be a great advantage.

Oh and I’m 25 and my FI is 27.

Wait a sec...@JaKLyn - did I miss this announcement?! How exciting!! Congrats!!

I'm not really sure what our plan is. I thought I wanted to wait a while..and I still think I do..but the older my parents get, and the more I think about how much I would really LOVE to have the experience of having our remaining grandparents meet their great-grandchild..the more I think it'll happen sooner rather than later. We aren't trying (and I'm still on BC), but if it happened unplanned, I wouldn't be upset.

I turn 25 in November and fh is 26. We have talked about keeping a year for ourselves to travel and just be married before trying. After that year we will stop by and if I get pregnant wonderful if not thats ok too. If I don't get pregnant in that year then we will actually ttc.

We plan to start trying within a few months. I'll be 31 and he will be 33. We had our daughter when I was 25 and he was 27. We want two or three more kids and I don't want to have them too far past 35. I think the younger the better. You never know if you may have complications or problems conceiving and if you want to have more than one, you have to give yourself time. As long as you're financially ready, I would go for it. Good luck!

@Laura I announced about 2 weeks back right after we found out, but hid the thread later on just to be on the safe side. We'll be taking an announcement photo in secret at the wedding and sending it out with our Christmas cards this year as a way to tell the family.

We are actively planning to not have children

We were in our mid 20s when we married, and waited till our early 30s to have babies cause I wanted to finish graduate school and my internship before then. Worked out well *except* taking a licensing exam (or doing anything else that requires you to sit in a hard chair and focus for along time...) when you're 7 1/2 months pregnant is a BAD idea.

We want to start trying about 6 months in. I'll be 30 at that point, he'll be 33. I'd be happy to try right away but he wants to wait a few months. If I had met and married him younger, I would have loved to have had kids younger. Or to at least been able to spend some time married and still had time to have the number of kids I want. My parents married at 23 and 30, and had me (the oldest) at 28 and 35. That was always my plan, but you can't plan when you'll meet the person you want to spend your life with! I also know I can't just "plan" to have my kids at a certain time and expect it will just happen like that. Who knows how easily we'll conceive, or if we'll miscarry, or anything else... So I usually just say, this is what I'd like to happen, but we'll see.

We're not really going to try to or try not to. We'll be 28 (me) and 37 (him) when we get married. There's a good chance he's deploying for the first half of 2017, so if I'm not pregnant by the time he leaves, we might start actively trying more when he gets back.

We plan on starting to try in about 3 years. We have plans to pay off all our debt and get some good savings in place first and then it'll be baby time! We will still be relatively young at the time, 24 and 25.

We tried right away (I was 33 and he was 39 when we married). I got pregnant right away but unfortunately miscarried this past June. We just found out 3 weeks ago that I'm pregnant again. We are due this May. We just took our announcement pic this weekend, which we are sharing once I have my 12 week appointment on 11/5. Crossing our fingers and saying tons of prayers all goes smoothly....

I finish grad school 6 months after our wedding, so as long as I can get a job in my field shortly after graduation, we'll probably start trying at the one year mark. If I don't get a job right away, we're going to wait until I have a stable position to start trying.

Would I have wanted one when I was 22? No. But I'll be 26 by the time we try to conceive and I'm perfectly okay with that.

Happy thoughts to you Mrs. K!!

FH wants a baby ASAP, I want to wait until we're married for a bit and have a chance to enjoy married life. I'm 31 and he's 40. I've decided that one of his Christmas presents will be me handing over my bc ;-)

@Mrs. K LOVE IT! Congratulations and nothing but the best of luck.

We will have waited negative 29 months by our wedding day. We have two adorable baby girls. FH is 34 and I am 36.

Hoping all goes well for you Mrs K! Xoxo

FH and I originally wanted to TTC right after the wedding because I want our kids to grow up with my siblings kids and his brother's kid (we have a lot of newborns in our family). After seeing everything that goes into having a baby first hand, we decided to wait. We both still live at home and will be living on our own for the first time when we get married. We want to get accustomed to that and being on our own first. We'll probably start trying at the 2 year mark

Thx ladies!!

We aren't having kids, but on the subject of age:

My parents were the oldest parents I knew when I was growing up. My dad was 45 when they had me, and my mom was 32.

My parents never had an issue with being there for concerts, plays, dances, etc...there were a handful of occasions that mom had to work, but we always had at least one parent present.

I don't think you necessarily have to have kids super young to be present and be active as parents...remember to take some time to enjoy your married life.

Hoping all goes well Mrs. K--So cute!!

We have talked about pulling all protection and just working via a cycle calendar to avoid getting pregnant for now. We will be good to go if it happens, if not then we will continue saving and preparing until we are both serious about TTC. Doesn't mean baby fever is ANY less these days!