How long do you want to wait/did you wait to have kids after marriage?

I was 30 when I got married so we started after the honeymoon. It took a year to get pregnant and our son is now 5 weeks old!

If I had gotten married a lot younger, though, I would have waited. At 30, I was at a good place career-wise, finance-wise, own a home, settled, and over wanting to go out and party all the time. So I didn't feel like I had to "give up" my life as I knew it. Yes, its still an adjustment having a baby around but it's not total insanity, we're not stressed about budgets and money for him. I can't imagine having a baby when I was 24 or so because I was still going to bars all the time and enjoying it.

We're not waiting, like, at all haha.. as soon as mother nature does it's work is when we're planning on having children, post-wedding

I plan on trying right after the wedding, mainly because of our ages. FH will be 36 and I will be 35 so I don't want to wait much longer.

We are financially stable, but hate where we live. So we are waiting until the spring when our lease ends to move out of L.A. We will start trying around then to have kids

We have 2 kids together already but we plan on trying for our 3rd come wedding night! It's all up to you though. I'll be 37 and he'll be 40 so we feel like a clock is ticking.

I had my first son at 21 and have always been able to provide for him. With no help. I'd say he's had a pretty awesome life so far lol. Age has nothing to do with it. As long as you are financially stable and mature enough I say go for it. With that being said, we are trying right away. I will likely stop BC a couple of months before the wedding for good measure. If it were up to FH we would've started trying already. Lol. It's a go on our honeymoon

I am 27 and DH is 29. We had been together for about 3.5-3.75 years as of the wedding. He has said he would be fine with kids anytime from now on. That while we aren't really ready to actively try it wouldn't be a problem if it happened right away, just harder. I on the other hand don't want kids right now. I would actually be pretty upset if I got pregnant soon. I feel like it would set us back because so much of our resources would go towards that and so it would make it really hard to get ahead whereas if we get ahead first then it will be so much easier to do. I can't say that I really have a time frame (though it's likely to be 2-5 years) for me it's more that there are certain things I want to cross off the list first. I really want a certain amount paid off our mortgage. I also want my student loans paid off completely. Ideally I would also want the attic/second floor of our home finished as well. Our home is relatively small and doing that makes it to where we have plenty of room for the 2 kids we have in mind. Without it things will be super tight. I feel like if we don't do that pre-baby it will be almost impossible to do it once the kid is here. That might be the one that is hard to get done though as I know it will be expensive. Also, we aren't getting a honeymoon and while we've taken small getaways together we've never had a real vacation as a couple. I would love to take him to Europe (he's never been) before we have a baby and it's harder to travel. We'll just have to get my parents to furbabysit!

We plan on stopping all methods of birth control and if it happens it happens. We plan on buying a house next sept and I'd rather be settled before we get pregnant but whatever happens happens.

Pretty much right after the wedding. I've had the Mirena iud for a few years now. I'm getting it taken out soon, then we will use other methods of contraception until right before the wedding.

We'll both be 26 at that point and we are ready and excited to start a family!

I'm 28, he's 31. We have no previous children other than our dog! I want to wait until I am at least 32-33 before TTC, if we decide to have children at all. We really enjoy being our own top priority. I would need my mom to be retired before/if we have children because I am not willing to stop traveling.

I would love to start trying right after the wedding. My parents had me super young (17 and 19), so I'm used to having young parents. I could never imagine having older parents and have always wanted to have kids at a younger age, although not quite as young as my parents. However, we'd ideally like to have a house before having a baby. Our lease will be up at the end of April 2016, so we're hoping to have a house by then, but I don't think we'll have a down payment saved up by then after paying for the wedding. We will probably have to wait until around April 2017 to buy a house. I'm hoping I can at least convince FH to stop using condoms after the wedding but I'll stay on the pill until we really want to start trying (currently using both since FH is super paranoid). It won't be as big of a deal if the pill fails since we'll be married. Oh and we'll be 25 when we get married so we'll probably be 26-28 when we have a kid.

FH is pretty adamant about ttc within the first year. We've been together 4.5 years and he's starting to think he's getting too old lol! I'm 22 and he'll be 30 in a couple months.

FH told me that he's comfortable with me going off BC for his birthday, which is one month before the wedding. So I'll finish the pack that I'm on then, and see what happens. FH will turn 35 a month before the wedding, and I'll turn 37 four months after the wedding, so we aren't planning to delay (though we know it may not happen right away).

We're young also, I'm 21 and FH will be 24 for the wedding. We want to start in like two years.

My mom was a teen mom (not with me but my older sibling. I was born in her mid 20s). We always struggled. As a kid, it sucked having that anxiety and feeling of shame. FHs parents had kids in their 40s. They had a more stable home life, went on vacations/ trips, his parents were very active with their own sports hobbies and the community etc. I don't think being a younger parent automatically makes you "like a cool mom" (sorry couldn't resist). If finances are ok (not that one should wait for a perfect situation because that rarely happens), if you are mentally prepared and mature enough for the responsibility, then go for it.

For you ladies planning to go off your bc before your weddings, beware!!! You may end up with all sorts of nasty breakouts right before the most photographed day of your life because of the hormonal changes! Happened to a few girls I know and they really regretted doing that!

Were not positive we're going to have kids, but if we do, we're going to start trying during 2nd or 3rd year of medical school, so 2-3 years after we're married. At that point I'll be in my early 30s and FH will be pushing 40.

I just got married a few weeks ago, and DH's mother passed away unexpectedly shortly after. Our plan was to start TTC right away, but we're now going to wait 6 months.

We are high school sweethearts as well, and we got pregnant with our first baby the month after our engagement! We were both 22 and had already been together 7 years! So I don't think there's an age or a "right" time, it's whenever you both feel it's a perfect time to start your family. My baby girl is 13 months and we can't imagine our lives with out her. Being parents makes us better people and a better couple ETA we received our degrees and started our careers during the time I was pregnant so it was perfect timing too. So financially stable is one important thing too

We are thinking about TTC in 3 years, which will mean I'll be 28 and DH will be 29. By then I will have been working for a year after law school and we are hoping to have paid off a good chunk of my student loans and saved enough for a down payment in a good school district. We're high school sweethearts and have been together for almost 10 years now but it just doesn't make sense for us financially to have a kid right now, plus DH works somewhat erratic hours and my schedule changes every 3 months and I have a crazy commute. Also, DH works with families and kids that have DCF involvement and he doesn't want to still be doing that when we have kids because he feels it would be really tough.