How is your wedding party walking down the aisle?

I plan on having everyone walk out alone

Why do people act like walking down the aisle as a bridesmaid or groomsmen means that afterwards you have to sleep together? I just don't get it. I feel like you tell them how they are going to walk and they say "okay sounds good". Don't you have enough to deal with with wedding planning without having to worry about not offending the BM and then not offending the GM?

How old are all of you that this is even an issue?

@Jess I agree. No one likes her BF. believe me, we are all ready to see that relationship come to an end. She deserves better.

I still don't understand how you think your sister walking down the aisle with another man would be confusing for her foster children.

I was in a wedding where I had to walk with a guy that I used to hook up with in high school. He was in love with me back in the day, I did not feel the same. I hurt him pretty badly.

I did not want to do this. But I did it anyway because that's what the bride wanted. And I survived. Harrowing story, I know.

I'm a little concerned about the jealous BF because it could put your friend in danger. Maybe have her walk down with your pants-wearing friend and call it a day!

My girls all walked in alone. The guys filed in first and stood up front as we all walked in.

There is so much nonsense here, it's not even funny. No one will die if they have to walk with someone other than their SO, or someone in pants vs. a dress, etc.

I am happier and happier every day that I skipped the bridal party all together.

We are having our wedding party in groups that will walk in together. Small groups (no more than 3 adults or 2 adults & 2 kids) will walk in with each other, instead of pairing or doing single file. So his 2 buddies from high school will walk in, my 3 friends walk in, then his 3 college buddies, then our families - my brother and his family, his brother and his family, then my sister and her family. It was our compromise between him wanting a giant wedding party and me not wanting one at all. They will all sit in the front few rows during the ceremony, with just my sister and his brother standing up there with us. It's different, but it's meeting our needs and including everyone that FH wanted to include.

This is so strange to me. It's not like you're magically stuck with the person you walk with in a wedding....I would just pair them up & move on, its not that big of a deal. 30 seconds, if they can't endure that for you I'm not sure what kinda of friend I would consider them.

Some of my wedding party are in relationships and this issue never crossed my mind. Smh If one can't adult for 30sec w/o drama from their SO, they can sit in the congregation along everyone else!

We're having the groomsmen and ring bearer (he's 2) walk down after the groom with his parents. Then will be my bridesmaid, bridesman, and MOH. You can check out youtube to see how previous weddings have done this. With the recessional, we'll just have them walk out paired up.

I really want to answer sarcastically here... They will be walking on their feet. Lol. But really, maybe have them walk in separately and the walk out together. It's 30 seconds.

Almost all of my couples have me first, then the groom (or first groom or first bride) followed by their party. Then parents (who are not escorting the bride/second bride/second groom), then the other BP members,one by one, then the other partner with parent/parents.

For the recessional, I just pair everyone up and off they go. No one really pays any attention to the recessional beyond the couple anyway.

So. I am gay as Christmas and every time I've been a bridesmaid and had to link arms with a groomsman and walk down the aisle it's been kinda awk and we both go to be the butch one with our arms on top, but I've done it and kinda laughed it off with the GM.

Though if we really want to get into it, everyone saying this is stupid thing to think about, let's take a moment to consider this tradition and how heteronormative it is and how much it assumes heterosexual as universal. I'm not pairing anyone off. It's a gay wedding so, especially in our case, why do bridal parties have to follow his heteronormative automatic standard?

'why do bridal parties have to follow his heteronormative automatic standard?'

They don't but in this case it is what the couple wants it and the excuses for not doing it 'children might get confused and think mummy is running away with another man' are absurd.

This is one of those things that seems really important right now because you have this "perfect vision" of what/how you want everything to look and play out, but in the end, it's an incredibly trivial thing to over think. You won't give a damn how your wedding party walks down the aisle at that moment, and I promise none of your guests will either. Yes, it's a 30 second walk to you and everyone else, but why make your wedding party uncomfortable for that 30 seconds? I would have them just go single file, maybe alternate sides BM, GM, BM, GM.... and so on. It'll look just fine and no one will feel awkward.

I do agree the "kids will be confused" excuse is a bit ridiculous, but she may be just thinking of whatever excuse she can because she just doesn't want to walk with anyone. As far as the BM with a jealous BM goes, (as previously stated by others) that sounds like a very toxic relationship and I hope she sees that soon. And for your other bridesmaid (which from your post I'm assuming they do identify as female?) I'm glad you're not forcing her to wear a dress, but I really hope you decide against making her walk with a guy. You mentioned it would be uncomfortable for him, which would make it even more uncomfortable for her. It just sounds like a lot of very unnecessary discomfort and drama for everyone.

I'm having my bridesmaids (and one bridesman) walk down solo.

OP, you're a sweet friend but I (like you) sometimes go Tom far in accommodating people. If you want have them practice it both ways and decide which YOU prefer. But I've also seen it done solo and paired- either way is fine!

@Dani, thank you for being a voice of support. I think I will do as you say and have them walk down the aisle alternating bridesmaid/groomsman. I agree that I won't care in the end, I really don't care right now! My friends comfort is way more important to me than a short walk down the aisle.

And yes, SHE does identify as "she" and considers herself cis, she just so happens to prefer man's clothes, thank you for that distinction.

I refuse to be a bridezilla and make my wedding party uncomfortable when they spent time and money making sure they could be in my wedding party and supporting our marriage. Our friends were rooting for us before our families knew about our relationship, and have supported us every step of the way. I refuse to have them uncomfortable over something as trivial as the order they walk down the aisle.