How is your wedding party walking down the aisle?

My friend got married this past spring and she had all the groomsmen walk in behind the groom straight to the front and each bridesmaid walk alone ahead of her. She had them walk out in pairs afterwards. In the end it's YOUR wedding and while you can compromise things out you might not be able to make everyone happy, they need to be there for you and what you want.

Honestly it doesn't compromise my wedding if they walk in alone or in pairs, I just want our friends to be comfortable and happy.

I wasn't sure if walking in a single file line was something normal or not, lol.

I agree with Sarah and have seen that done in a few weddings.

I have never seen anyone walk back up the aisle alone, but if this is a big concern you could have them follow the two of you and alternate BM and GM. It would look odd but just a thought. I hope that makes sense.

ETA: I agree with Heather.

I'm not sure if you have an even number of bridesmaids/groomsmen, but on the way back, you can have the bridesmaids walk in pairs together. Same with the groomsmen.

I have 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsman

Mine are walking by them self (i have the same amount of BM and GM as you) for this same reason. the GM are all in relationships and I reallyyyy did not want the drama of them fighting with their spouse due to who they would walk down the isle with. so alone it is. you can do you ceremony as you please. once I decided that, it gave me peace of mind.

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Honestly? This is ridiculous. You're trying to bend over backwards for pretty silly excuses. The walk together (usually the recessional) is less than 30 seconds. They can't walk with someone for that long? It's not like you're asking them to make out or get inappropriate while leaving the ceremony. Are these people not comfortable being in the same space with men at work or literally anywhere else?

I think the excuses for why these people don't want to walk in pairs is pretty weak! It's 30 seconds on their life. No one is asking that they hold their partner's hand or get intimately close to them. Walking side by side is accomplished by elementary school students. These attendants are adults, I assume, and should therefore be capable of acting like one.

Of course, it's your decision. If YOU want them to walk single file, then that's your decision. But, please don't be bullied into it because your friends have issues.

We have an uneven party - so I'm having the guys walk in with FH & minister and my girls will walk in alone. when we leave, they'll pair up and the extra bridesmaid will be walking alone

I agree with PPs that this is ridiculous. They should be able to act like adults for the 30 seconds before and the 30 seconds after the ceremony. If you're truly concerned about it being an issue, have them walk individually. We had the groomsmen go first (the best man escorted DH's aunt in and the other groomsmen walked alone) then the bridesmaids walked in. Nobody has to process or recess in pairs, but if that's what you choose, your attendants need to suck it up.

'My sister would do it bit she is married and currently has 4 kids (3 foster kids one bio) amd I think it would be confusing to them.... '

How on earth is this confusing exactly?

@OG I completely agree, believe me.

Your friend's clothing choices should have nothing to do with if she feels comfortable walking with a dude. I mean seriously, you link arms and walk for about 30 seconds. The GM can't handle that either? Like he's never seen a non-cis person before in his life? C'mon. The girl with the jealous boyfriend also needs to get a grip. This is a bunch of foolishness.

Sounds ridiculous. It's really not that serious. It's not like anyone has cooties. Tell them you only need 30 minutes of their life to do what you want them to do. If they don't wanna do it, then let them go. You don't need this drama.

Wow, it's just a walk. Buuut, maybe stagger guy and girl down the aisle? You could do anything, really

Another way I have seen is that the men all walk in first behind the groom and stand in front waiting for the ladies.

Then the ladies walk in one after another and then the bride enters last.

If this is causing you a headache just let everyone walk alone. It is very silly to even give this so much consideration. You can't make everyone happy... but in this instance that is your solution. Just make sure you don't compromise on EVERYTHING trying to make everyone happy.

I can't wrap my brain around someone's SO or spouse having an issue with them walking down the aisle with another person. That's so childish it's ridiculous. I would tell them that they can handle it for just a few moments. If your friend truly feels that uncomfortable, maybe have her walk next to him without touching. ETA spelling.

My FH and groomsmen are not walking down the aisle at all, they are going to be the ones to greet guests as they arrive and will be waiting at the end of the aisle, and the BMs will be walking down alone before me. I've seen it done this way a couple times and i loved it

We are having everyone walk down in pairs we are pairing up married people with non-married people and people with children with people that aren't their spouses. I'm confused how a 30-second walk down the aisle could confuse children. Children aren't dumb; just tell them mommy is walking with one of the bride's friends and that's how weddings work. You could have everyone walk alone but I'm so confused why they would stress the bride out with something so petty.

Also check-in on the bridesmaid after the wedding. If someone is in a relationship with someone so jealous that she can't fully participate in a wedding because of his jealousy that's bordering on abusive.