How involved is your fh in planning?

FH hasn't done much planning, but I always ask him if he's okay with something before I make a deposit or buy something. He's really liked everything I've put together so far, though! He did choose our first dance song. We'll be dancing to "I Do (Cherish You)" by Mark Wills. We both love that song, and FH loved the meaning behind all the lyrics so he wanted that to be our first dance song.

I basically have been deciding on stuff and then I bring it to him to ok or veto. He has a few opinions what he doesn't want, he said absolutely no mason jars, burlap, hay bales, or anything with the word rustic. I have no clue where he got this opinion from but it's fine with me haha. The only thing that's really annoying that we can't agree on, because he just doesn't have a strong opinion on music and I always like to have the PERFECT song for every situation, is our first dance song. We have "a song" that all of friends always play and they are like ITS YALL but it has a few inappropriate comments in it that he doesn't want to dance to in front of everyone. (it's In Spite of Ourselves by John Prine if you want to look it up, I think it's supposed to be funny honestly but his family is old school I don't think they'd see the humor). So that's our struggle at the moment. Everything else I go to my girlfriends for to see if it looks cute or matches our vibe/theme, because he really doesn't care.

My FH is involved the perfect amount for me. I get overwhelmed very easily, especially if it’s something I don’t have much interest in. So he gives his opinion about everything and it’s been working out perfectly because if it’s something I don’t have much of an opinion about, we can make a decision easily. If it’s something I do feel strongly about, he backs off and let’s me come to a decision. He’s letting me plan the wedding I want, but he’s not sitting back letting me do everything on my own. He knows I would get too overwhelmed!

Mine is so laid back & chill. He has let me do whatever I want. I ask his opinion from time to time but planning something like this is not his cup of tea. He goes with the flow. He just said, he will definitely show up with his suit on ready to go! Lol

My FH is opinionated and very involved. He was upset that I designed our wedding invitations without his input, which I feel bad about but I didn't think he'd care. He said the only thing he doesn't want to be involved in is my bridal party outfits.

I never had wedding dreams before getting engaged. My FH is in the events and banquet industry and thus knows how to do things and has strong opinions about things not being the same as every other wedding he's been to. In my perfect world I'd let him do everything. We're both getting very annoyed at some of our friends and family constantly asking me questions about things and me saying "Brandon doesn't like the idea of X," or "I don't know I'll have to ask Brandon about that. because they don't understand why "i'm involving him". "The groom is just supposed to show up". What kind of backwards idea is that?

He's willing to help but i wanna say it's mostly me because it's something I've always envisioned

View Quoted Comment My advice is talk to your fiancé. It should be about both of your cultures and backgrounds, it should be how you two are as a couple. Explain to him that you should be making the decisions together as a team like you will be in marriage and how important this is for you two to do together. If he’s already letting his family make all of the decisions for the both of you then it’ll continue your whole marriage and always be a source of tension. You need to be on each others sides.

MY FH is totally involved. LOL We laugh this is his wedding im just showing up lol

FH wants to be part of almost anything. But after realizing what that really meant he sat me down and was like "I want A, B, C. Other than that? Just tell me what you want and where you need my help." so I keep him up to date with anything I'm doing and he helps me with DIY projects, but other than that it's pretty much me making decisions