Do you consider it to be the most vital part of the wedding day that everything is centered around or is it just going through the motions signing paper that you don’t feel guests care about and don’t need to attend? Or is it somewhere in between?
I think it's important because it's the most meaningful portion of the day. When I go to weddings, ceremonies are often times my favorite part, especially when the couple really personalizes it. I've been to a wedding where we were only invited to the reception and it just wasn't the same without going to the ceremony.
The ceremony was super important to us, but we also have been on the other side of some very exhausting/long-winded ceremonies so we kept it very short. We wrote our own vows and each of us spoke for less than a minute and we had a small poem read by our officiant and then we exchanged rings. I think it ended up being under 10 minutes. As a guest, I really enjoy the ceremony, especially if it has individual touches specific to the couple.
The ceremony is literally the most important part, it's you and your SO saying your vows and committing to each other, it's the entire reason your guests are there. The reception is to thank them for attending.
We are both so excited for the ceremony! My FH was insistent that it be long (not a problem since we are doing it in our Catholic Church, it’ll probably be 46-60 mins) so that guests feel like they “earn” the reception 😂 I’m okay with it being long but not for that reason, the church is SO beautiful and the organ will be playing and I want to soak it all in, and not have it be over in 10-15 mins!
I wouldn’t say it’s the most important part of the day or the most meaningful, but instead each part was equally important and meaningful to us. The ceremony, the emotional speeches, going around and visiting with friends and family at tables, dancing and enjoying our loved ones — all of these elements came together for a perfect day to celebrate love.
For our wedding, it was definitely the most important part.
And now for our vow renewal, while I am very excited for the party part - because it is going to be an absolute blast - I still feel like the ceremony is the important part. I've already selected readings that I think are really going to hit everyone in the heartstrings, I teared up a bit reading them myself the other night.
I think of it in terms of a high school or college graduation. The actual ceremony is a "rite of passage" (serious and solemn) but the party/reception is the celebration and time to relax and have fun.
We were most excited about the reception, but we knew our venue was The One when we saw it because of both the indoor reception (wine cave) and outdoor ceremony (patio overlooking the lake) areas. I almost cried thinking that’s where we’d say our vows and get married.