How important is a cake/cutting to you?

I like the idea of "cutting" the donut and feeding it to each other. We would have done a cake alternative as well if it wasn't already included in our venue's package - neither of us are big into cake so it'll be more for tradition/pictures/our guests' sake.

I don't care if there's a cake cutting if you've chosen another dessert, but I will say it was super weird when my step sister got married, had a beautiful cake, and then just had the caterer cut it up and serve it at the tables.

Table service - nice.

Wasting what appeared to be $500 worth of cake (cause you're paying for the design!) was weird.

I think cutting the cake is fun because its traditional but in all honesty half of the guests don't even pay attention to what is going on.

Totally don't care.

We did get some funny photos and videos, of ours. Hubby took the knife and didn't have a clue how to cut it. Had to re-cut it twice and made a lot of faces. Had trouble lifting the piece out and it ended up being mostly icing. No caterer will ever hire him! LOL!

I honestly am debating whether I want a cake or not. I like the idea of tradition, but I also don't want to waste 15 minutes on cutting the cake so I'm still in the air. Plus cakes are ridiculously expensive!!!

I think having donuts is so fun!! I'd like whoopee pies too...

Cut a donut! Or take a picture of you feeding each other donuts instead of cutting the cake. For some people the cake cutting indicates it's ok to leave the wedding but that's a tradition going away.

I think cutting the cake can make for some cute picture opportunities, but I don't think it's necessary. Traditions are definitely changing. I agree that if you want pictures, you can just use a donut. You don't have to purchase a cake just for the sake of pictures if you don't want to eat cake!

As a guest...meh. Its nice for photos, but I wouldn't be pissed off if they didn't do it.

We didn't have a traditional cake, we did cupcakes and bundt cakes (delicious) and didn't do a "cutting", and I don't feel like I missed out on anything at all.

I think only grandmas/old aunts care about watching you cut the cake. As a guest I never cared, I just wanted them to start serving dessert already, lol.

We had a cake buffet instead of one wedding cake. I love dessert, so I thought that'd be more fun.

ETA: @Matt, those pies look delicious! Now I must go buy pie for dinner.

Hmm. I _guess_ we'll want a picture of us cutting it? I don't even know. We're asking that people not take any photos on their phones so I'm not even sure there would be a point to making a production out of it...

Cake cutting is another one of those traditions I see as being done because it always has been. There really is no special purpose behind it other than photo ops these days. Cutting a cake is no more symbolic of my FH working as a team on something than the actual act of hosting and planning a wedding.

We're not doing many "traditional" things but we are doing a cake cutting. We are doing it between cocktail hour and dinner so that cake can be served right after dinner. It's a Friday night wedding with dinner not served until 7:30. Not sure how much later some older guests will be staying.

We had donuts, macarons and Girl Scout cookies. Our donut purveyor is amazing, and her donuts are seriously the best ever. We did not do a "cutting" and I'm positive nobody missed it. They were just stoked at how delicious our spread was.

For my wedding it was important to myself and my husband that we had a tiered cake that we loved and it was important to us to do the cake cutting and all that.

As I guest I don't care either way. If they cut the cake, that's cute and great. If not, that's fine too. As long as I get dessert I'm happy. Bring on the chocolate!

Yes for Donuts!!! That is what we are doing too!!! FH doesn't like cake at all. I don't think anyone will care. At first when we told my dad, he was like, but you have to have cake. He ended up coming around, though.

I mean cake is really important to me as a food group... but if you aren't doing one at your wedding cause you don't like cake.. I think that is FINE. I don't think cutting it and feeding it to each other is needed at all.....

Cut a doughnut? lol

We're doing a cake cutting. Because I like cake.

Lol @erin! Cake is totally a food group!

It's whatever your comfortable w/. As a bride/guest it's not important to me, but FH still wants to do it since we'll be a married couple & he would like to cut the cake w/ me for the 1st time

I have zero desire to cut cake, or watch someone cut cake. If it isn't important to you as a couple, I don't think it is that big of a deal. As PPs have suggested, if you want the photo opp maybe cut a donut?