How does one politely uninvite a guest?

@thecenterpieceflowers she was not my friend or DH. So if you were dating someone, invited to his friends wedding as his date. You guys broke up, you would still attend the wedding?! I don't think so, or your rude and oblivious that you were invited as a social unit, not because they care if you are there. I know the situation and it made sense. The same week another bride kicked her out of her bridal party and uninvited her to their wedding. I guess you would have to have a fuller picture to understand.

I wasn't comparing the situations by any means, I was sharing what we did to univite a guest.

Btw I applied for a gun today in CA, and paid full attention lol, it asked if you illegally used marijuana. Nothing was mentioned about a medical marijuana card. And it didn't mention federal laws vs state laws.

I could see that being so confusing to someone with a medical marijuana card.

I thought of you ladies as I was taking it lol

I do agree uninviting is "a case by case basis", and should be done with the utmost careful thought and consideration. In other words, just don't do it in the heat of the moment when emotions are high and you may come to regret your decision later. But, I am also a go-against-the-grain free thinker here. I don't do stuff just because it's etiquette or the way it's done. All of my decisions are carefully thought out and planned. But because it's right for me, and my situation... not because it's what Miss Manners suggests I do on a Google search or according to the forum by-laws. You, ultimately, have to do what is RIGHT FOR YOU... not what is right for Tina, Dena, and Mena (my version of Tom, Dick and Harry). And I am sure 50 million WW users will now descend upon me and tell you, and others, not to listen to me and I am "rude AF". But the fact remains, THEY are NOT attending your wedding, and THEY will NOT have to live with the ramifications of your decision to have this person at your wedding or not. There is really no "polite way" to uninvite anyone- EVER. So be prepared, for this affecting your dear husbands relationship with his best friends father, mother, etc... forever. If you *both* think you can live with that consequence for the rest of your lives, then you do what's right for you. But give it careful thought and consideration.

I am not trying to dissuade you, for safety reasons, I agree he should not be invited. My preliminary statements were more based in a general sense in reference to other statements made here. Ultimately, rude or not... if there was a guest who was going to cause drama at MY wedding, that would be remembered forever- and keep in mind here on WW were are overly concerned with NOT having a free bar based on what ALL our guests will say behind our backs... but not someone who will throw a public gauntlet, possibly have a screaming or cursing match, or otherwise cause drama. Because when posters post saying the words "guest + drama", those are the types of things most people envision. Think "Bridezillas". No, I do not want that at my wedding, and I shouldn't have to either... NO ONE should have to. And wanting to avoid a potential damaging situation that could mar the event, stain future memories, and ruin other guests enjoyment or experience isn't being "rude AF". Personally, I see as being responsible to the "whole" and not "the 1".

Geezz! Hopefully, u haven't sent the invites out yet-That would be the easiest way to not include him. I would think after that incident he would know he was not longer invited/welcome!

Good luck

Special, I don't think anyone would condone inviting this guy to the wedding. It's common sense and a safety issue that he should stay away. Your anger is showing, you might want to tuck that back in. I don't think 50 million WW users will descend on the OP for this. Safety trumps etiquette.

I do agree with Special that this may affect the friendship, but when someone is this volatile I don't think you have a choice. I would have FH talk to his best friend about this issue to start out with and go from there.

Vegan, uninviting someone because of a breakup is a very hurtful thing to do. This is not at all the same situation or even close to it.

Finally, Elizabeth was quite correct and I don't believe that "overexaggeration" is a word.

This man should be in jail for domestic violence and threatening with a lethal weapon. Which would eliminate the invite issue...

I doubt it will hurt the relationship between Gm and his dad as their relationship is already bad.... and FH really wouldn't care about the affect between Gm's dad and himself because Gm is his best friend and he's not cool with anyone treating his best friend like shit... even if that person is his dad.