Asian weddings are usually huge- up to 300 people. It’s usually filled with extended families/friend of both bride and groom’s parents. My FH and I are aiming for 165 or up to 200 people, which is considered “small” but it’s a bit challenging having family from both of our sides each attend. Our goal is to invite family we are family we are close with. 5% of our list is our close friends.
Some family members from my FH’s side doesn’t understand this concept. They think it’s bring everyone you know or even people you don’t know. We want something meaningful and intimate and not random guests. His grandma asked us for two invitations to give to his aunt’s husband (uncle through marriage) to give to his sister and her husband. We told her, “the wedding is not the bride or groom’s relatives’ extended family.” His cousin’s best friend literally asked us now, “so what’s this wedding? It’s an open invite kinda thing? How many guests are you having?” And even when we said, “no”, the guy and FH’s cousin looked offended, like they couldn’t understand it and we weren’t being hospitable. Smh. I don’t think they understand that not all weddings are the same, it’s according to preference, and that they’re so expensive. It’s not an open thing. We are paying $40/head. I feel so uncomfortable. Any tips?
PS: I can’t believe he asked how many guests we’re having and, “well not all your invited guests are gonna go and I can stop by.” OMG WHAT?! He doesn’t know us very well. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t know like last names! Oh and these are guys asking
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