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How do you approach a honeymoon fund??

Jenny, on August 12, 2019 at 9:05 PM Posted in Honeymoon 0 9
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Ok, so my fiancé and I have been together for over 10 years. We have kids, our home, and everything in it. I would really like to do a honeymoon fund to go on a vacation of our choice or do some home improvements. I know this is a newer thing, but I just wanted to see if any of you have done it and how you have gone about it?

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
    Honeyfunds are a scam 🤷🏽‍♀️

    If it were me I wouldn’t register for anything. People know cash is a good gift. They don’t need a fancy website that skims off your gift to know cash is a good gift.
  • 2d Bride
    Master October 2009
    2d Bride ·

    Honeyfunds have two problems:

    * A registry is supposed to indicate what you would like if someone wants to give you a gift, not to induce someone to give you a gift in the first place. Because everyone likes cash, a registry that asks for money (which includes a honeymoon fund) doesn't tell anyone anything they don't already know about what you'd like. So the assumption is that its purpose is to remind everyone that you want a gift, and thus it is seen as tacky.

    * If you don't have a registry, you'll get money. If you have a honeyfund registry, you'll get money--minus the administrative fees that the honeyfund takes.

    So, if you'll be seen as tacky if you have a honeyfund, and will also get less money, why do it?

  • J
    Dedicated October 2020
    Jenny ·
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    Great advice!! Thanks!!
  • Kat_
    Super October 2019
    Kat_ ·
    We offered a traditional registry, a honeymoon experience registry (via Honeyfund), and a registry for donating to Duke Cancer Research. It’s good to give options IMO and the fees are minimal on Honeyfund. I don’t think it’s tacky if you do it the right way. Good luck!
  • LB
    Champion November 2016
    LB ·
    Ugh, you don't. I've only been to one wedding that had a honey fund and she regretted it. Felt like she fell into the advertising.
    Just have no registry or a small registry and most people will get the picture.
  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
    I had one and maybe only like ten people used it aha. And I gotta tell ya - people are way more inclined to give you something when they know what exactly it's going to. So I itemized mine based on activities and they definitely bought those rather than just giving to the cash fund. Most people do just give cash though if you don't specify a registry.
  • Alycia
    Super July 2020
    Alycia ·

    The idea of giving options is the best. The fact is if you don't register many people will not "Just get it" and give you cash instead. Many will give you gift cards to random restaurants or gifts that they figure "everyone needs". Their money will be wasted if it's not actually something you will use.

    Personally, I don't like the idea of honeyfunds. It's the same as saying "Come to my party and make sure to bring me some money so I can go on vacation." But if you register with options, you can include the fund in your registry options. Register for some items as well. Things that represent you and your future husband. Whatever the two of you love to do together, think of items that will enhance and strengthen your marriage. (What do you love to do together? Wine tasting? Traveling? Sports/ working out? Etc.) Give your guests a chance to contribute to the happiness of your marriage.

  • Candice
    Devoted July 2020
    Candice ·

    Following for ideas. I realized I don't really know.

  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD Online ·

    I just wouldn't register so people can gift cash at the wedding and you don't offend people who don't like cash registries.

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