Long story short, my mother is an alcoholic (or at least very alcohol dependant) and absolutely hates my father and my step mom. My dad knows this, and has many times offered to pay for my boyfriend and I to elope for getting married, just to not deal with my mom.
We are not engaged yet, the wedding date I picked isn't even set (can't sign up without one, when all I want is to ask a question), and the location I've chosen during sign up is subject to change.
But, would picking a destination wedding deter my mother from wanting to come? Under normal circumstances I would love to have her part of my special day, but she has proven to not be able to control her drinking or behavior when my dad and step mom are around. (She was very hostile during my college graduation, which was when I realized I couldn't have her at my future wedding.)
Colorado Springs was beautiful when we went to see it, and is a long enough trip out that she may not want to go. Is that cruel to do?
