How do I tell my fiance's sisters' they are not in the bridal party?

I'm not having FH's sister in our wedding and she lives with us. In all honesty that's probably a big reason why.lol. Anyway I would just tell them flat out sorry, but you're not in the wedding. It's very, I want to say coincided, but I don't think that's the right word, if her to assume that she is in the wedding, especially if you aren't close.

I'm not having FHs sisters in my BP for a couple reasons. First, out of 5 girls I have only 1 that is not family & they are all very special/important to me, I couldn't leave them out. Plus I think any more would be too many. Also, we aren't very close & Ive only met her a few times. FH & I did discuss it once cuz his sister brought it up (one sis is mentally handicapped & not able to anyway), he told me its my choice and I don't have to make her a BM if I dont want.

There are no 'rules' saying you have to ask SOs sibling, but its a good idea. In your situation however it's probably best you dont. Have FH tell her you already chose your girls. I can see how it could cause hurt feelings if you were close to them, but as someone commented earlier just because you think you know the reasons why you werent asked doesn't mean you actually do & shouldnt hold a grudge.

Its very rude of them to assume they will be in the wedding.. My FH has two sisters who im not overly close with, honestly the thought of having them in my wedding never crossed my mind. If they assumed that they were in, i think i would have FH clear it up. Then again of they assumed and said something in front of me, i think I would set them straight ASAP

I don't get why they want to be in the wedding... I've been pretty focused on trying to keep costs down (both financial and time) for my bridesmaids, but it still is going to take up a decent amount of both. As a bridesmaid, I wouldn't want to do that for someone I wasn't really close to.

I do agree it might make your life a bit more difficult by not including them, but the people you surround yourself with that day should be people who care about you, love you, and are excited for you.

The most diplomatic way may be to either not have a bridal party, or just a MOH and a BM, then you are not actually snubbing them, just keeping it small.

I personally played the family card as I did not want to have to pick some of my friends over others.

This is redic.

Have a bridal party, choose who you want. Do not sacrifice your happiness in this wedding for a bunch of bitchy sisters that may or may not actually help you! That's what having the bridal party is for.

20 years down the line, I would much rather see my best friends standing next to me on my wedding day then see pictures of ass hole sisters just trying to be the center of attention at MY WEDDING.

I had a similar situation were my FMI was forcing the issue not my FSI and I have decided to make the decision for my FH to speak with his sister and see if she even wants to be apart of the wedding party and if she does ask her to be a hostess. That way everyone is included and we can get back to what is important on OUR day. So maybe you could give them another role if they accept great if not you tried, but don't allow others to dictate your special day.