How do I get over guests I don’t like being there ?

No. I can’t relate. It’s our wedding. So we only invited specific family members and friends who we have close relationships with and regularly speak to/hang with. Those are, obviously, the people we want to celebrate with since they’re the most meaningful in our life. So nope! No “just because” guests were invited.


Why would you ever invite guests who you dislike?

I also have put my foot down with the guest list. Only the people who are near and dear to us will be there. The only reason I could see for this is if one guest who you really want to be there is in a relationship with someone you dislike. If that is the case, one person you dislike is not going to ruin your day. There will be so many other people you love who will be there to support you.

I guess I’d want to know why you’re inviting people you don’t like in the first place and why you have to get over it? We were very particular about who we invited, but there was one friend of my husband’s that he really wanted there that I didn’t care for. I didn’t necessarily hate him, but his behavior (excessive drinking and hating on everyone’s relationships because he was single) was uncomfortable for me. 1 person out of 130 made it really easy for me to just ignore his friend the entire night, except for the one minute I interacted with him to thank him for coming.

Just try to ignore them and stay away. If you have a good friend or someone who can help you stay away, let them know and come up with a plan. Hopefully you can minimize time with them!

No, only invited family and friends who we’ve had actual relationship with in the last maybe 2-3 years. I’m not inviting 2nd cousins and their spouses and kids (then the list starts to add up fast, we want to keep it under 100 people), not inviting flaky friends who may think they will be invited when we haven’t talked in a number of years or even hung out (one way friends - you make every effort to keep in touch and they don’t) If you have a good number of guests, chances are you really won’t have to interact wit them much, but is there a reason you have to have them there? My FH and I are paying for our wedding on our own, so our parents get no say in who we invite (much to the dismay of his mother who is hurt we aren’t inviting FH’s half brother and his family because they are completely toxic and will ruin our day - but if his mom and grandparents don’t wanna come because we don’t invite them - it’s on them. Not us.) If you can and it’s not too late, skip inviting people you don’t want there - maybe you’ll get lucky and they won’t show up. Good luck!

I think the only person I don't like who will be invited is my aunt's husband. My aunt is my mom's bio sister and her ex-husband (the man who I consider to be my uncle) is my dad's step-brother so I'm related to both even though they divorced. I'm sure my aunt's current husband is going to start drama but I can't invite my uncle and not him. So I've told my dad that he can act as a bouncer for my aunt's husband when he eventually gets belligerent and can throw him out. The whole family hates him and I know my dad will get satisfaction in taking care of it lol.

We only invited guests that we like. If we don't like or feel some type of way about someone then they simply were not and will not be invited.

Why are there guests on your guest list who you don't want there?

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I'm with Sexypoodle on this one. I can't relate either. We only invited people that we truly enjoy the company of and want to celebrate with lol.

You should not be inviting people you don’t like.

Are the people you don't like SO's of the people you do? Or is it more of they are family and you feel you are obligated to invite them?

I don't know because we only have people we both really want. Weddings are expensive and I'm not wasting a seat on someone I don't want there.

I have one family member and his wife that we may end up inviting that I'm not a huge fan of simply because literally every other member of the family would be invited. And it's not even that I don't necessarily like him so much as it is he just annoys me, but he and his wife would be very easy to tune out on the day of.

If it's a person your SO is fond of but you're not, you really just have to suck it up. You'll realistically interact with them for maybe 5-10 minutes on the day of.

More info on the person and how they relate to you/the wedding would be helpful.

Unfortunately.. my dad is paying for my wedding and he is inviting a few people I do not want to be around. I simply will not be going near those people.

My parents and his parents had like 80 friggin guests i didn't know haha. but it doesn't really mean you have to interact with them either. other than going around tables saying hi and thank you, i deadass didn't interact with them - they were there as my parent's guests so my parents were the ones entertaining them most of the time anyway. didn't really feel like they were there for me, it was moreso them there as my parent's guests and to come to an event.

One of my FH's friends. I didn't care for the guy before but after he got petty over something he THOUGHT my FH did (didn't invite us to his wedding, didn't show up to FH's 30th, stopped inviting us to birthdays etc) I was super done. My FH is a good person and they've reconciled but I still don't like him and I wanted to be petty by not invite him to our wedding. The only reason I caved was because he's a real estate agent we might need help from in a couple of years soooo *pride swallowed* but yeah... there are enough guests to avoid him. And he will know a lot of people there so I won't feel obligated to entertain him

I think you'll have enough excuses to make sure you're saying hello and thanking other guests! Or make sure you're always around your bridal party/other guests who will help you get out of spending too much time with them. I very much dislike one of my FH's friends. He was my FH's first friend when he moved to this area after law school, so I try not to complain about him. I have trouble being around him for more than 2 minutes, and I will definitely be using the other guests as an excuse to not talk to him longer than that!

I can only think of one person I'm not really looking forward to having at our wedding but it'd be rude not invite my MIL. The best advice I can think of (that I'm following) is to be polite but brief and try and focus on your groom and the wedding finally arriving!

Why are you inviting people you don’t like? It’s common to send obligatory invites to make parents and others happy but they should never be sent. This is your (and your fiancé’s) wedding so only people you want in attendance should be invited. Parents can host parties and family reunions at another time.

View Quoted Comment It’s not my parents invited it’s everyone’s dam husband and wives I don’t like