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Cheyenne
Savvy June 2019

How did you honor those angels not with you on your big day?

Cheyenne, on May 18, 2019 at 1:01 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 22
His mother passed away this month about 14 years ago (i think it was 14. around there). I have a lapel pin with her picture on it for him to wear inside his jacket (he doesn't know about it yet. Im hoping to surprise him with it).


But how can I implement his mama more into our big day? I have a plaque to put up to honor those not with us, and plan to put a photo of her and his two sets of grandparents also up but wondered how others have done it to give me a better idea?


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Latest activity by Courtnee, on May 19, 2019 at 9:00 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I think what you have planned sounds sufficient. Honoring passed loved ones is a really sweet sentiment, but it's not something that you want to dwell on a ton on your big day as it might evoke some negative emotions for his family members. The only other thing I could think is having the officiant mention those who are there in spirit.

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  • Grace
    Expert June 2019
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    My fiancé’s dad passed away 3 years ago and he would have been his best man if he was still with us. He’s having a barstool with a jar of flowers and his dads police hat next to him in the place a best man would normally stand and we’re going to write a couple sentences explaining why that’s there in the program. We aren’t doing anything else bc he didn’t want to make it a big deal bc like Caytlyn said, it can be very sad for family’s members on what’s supposed to be a very happy no day, I think a small mention is best
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  • Happilee
    Dedicated December 2021
    Happilee ·
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    Your ideas sound lovely already.

    We will be "reserving" seats in the front row of the ceremony and placing a photo of each of our angels there.
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  • CDickman
    VIP September 2019
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    I would talk to him about it. Some families do not want to have a huge display and a big thing cause it can bring sadness and everyone is already timbering her. My mom passed away iMam doing charms on the bouquets of me and the BM and a special frame at the memorial table. Then a mention at the start of the ceremony. Like I said from personal experience talk to him cause some families prefer the small things.
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  • Katie
    Super November 2019
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    My Grandfather will have been gone 6 years at the time of the wedding and so I'm getting a sketch artist to draw a picture of my Grandfather, myself, and my Grandmother together with me in the middle in my wedding dress (using a bridal picture for them to draw from) and blowing it up to a decent size picture. We are doing the same for my FH's Grandfather who will have been gone a year in July.
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  • Micaiah
    Devoted July 2019
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    My seamstress who is working on my dress is putting a pocket in my dress for me. The lining of the dress will be a scrap of one of my dad's old tshirts. He passed away 10 years ago.
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  • Samantha
    Super August 2019
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    My father passed and his mom passed some time ago - my grandma and grandpa also recently passed. I’m keeping a candle lit on our ceremony table then moving it to our sweetheart table with a special quote on it. Also he’s doing a memorial mother son dance with his sister, I’m doing one with my brother.
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  • Susan
    Expert August 2019
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    We are having two wine barrels at the entrance of the ceremony with a welcome frame on one side and then a wooden sign with pictures of our lost loved ones. (I’ll attach a picture, but it’s not finished yet)
    I wanted to honor them, but really want to make the day about joy and loving the moment and didn’t want it to be overpowering for us. To each their own!

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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
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    My fiancee and I have both lost our parents, he's lost two brothers and very recently a sister, and I lost my cousin who was my best friend, and my grandmother. We're having the wedding on what would have been my grandmother's 100th birthday, and for the other ones we lost I'm getting a frame for there photos and having a memorial table with a vase of flowers. I'm also wearing the necklace my mom wore when she married my dad, and I may pin one of his military medals to the underneath of my dress.

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  • Monique
    Master December 2019
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    My fh mom passed several years ago. We are having his aunt walk him down the aisle holding a picture of her.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
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    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Talk to your fiancé. My hubby lost his mom 10 years ago but didn’t want any mention or memento of her at our wedding because he said he’d lose it and didn’t want sadness on our happy day. I respected his wishes. I think the lapel pin gift is really thoughtful!
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  • Trista
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    My fiance lost his dad when he was only 6. His dad wore a white suit when him and his mom got married, so we are putting FH in a white suit jacket. Subtle, but it'll mean the world to us and his mom.
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  • Cheyenne
    Savvy June 2019
    Cheyenne ·
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    Thanks all Smiley smile I wasn't looking to make it a big "to do" I was just wondering how others were implementing the photos into their day, decoration wise mostly. We will also be putting out flowers at her grave (which is right next to the church actually!) I made her two bouquets, as I made my own as well. I was looking for ideas to put for the table at the reception all in memory of loved ones. He is in the loop as well. Thanks for all input. A lot of your advice was neat. I appreciated all of it. Smiley smile

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  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
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    We will have a table for everyone and I think we will save a seat for the most painful losses. We may do a lantern send off too in honor
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  • Jessie
    Devoted September 2021
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    For grandlarents, I'm wanting to do pictures of them on their wedding day all dressed up. For my dad, Mama, Shawn (Dad's best friend and my "other dad"), his wife, and I are going to Dad's grave before the ceremony and laying flowers on his stone. Shawn has some of Dad's ashes and wants to tuck them in his coat pocket. Also gave Shawn the special bowlow tie Dad bought for his and mom's wedding to wear for the big day.
    Dad was my best friend. Going to try and tie him in any way possible.
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  • Kat_
    Super October 2019
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    My FW lost her Dad 3 years ago. They used to eat ice cream together every night when she was young so we are having an ice cream station with 1st Corinthians quoted (that was his favorite passage). My grandmother and grandfather passed away too... my G’ma loved ice cream. Maybe I’ll find one of her favorite quotes too. 💗
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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
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    I made some bouquet charms with my grandparents and aunts photos.
    Hubby thought about it too late but he had a pair of cufflinks that were his grandfathers but his brother had taken them when he moved out.

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  • Amy
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    Your lapel pin idea is so sweet. My fiancés mother also passed about 15 years ago and they were very close. We go visit her memorial often so I knew he would want to have something for her at our wedding. I wanted something for my grandfather as well. So I did a (surprisingly quick) DIY painted glass frame, and got a few pictures together of those family members to be set up on a table.

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  • Jpbride2B
    Dedicated October 2019
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    We haven't had our wedding yet, but we are definitely going to be doing something as well. The plan is to have a table in the entrance hall with a sign that says, "To honor those who we know are watching from above..." and have photos in frames of our passed loved ones. Then we are leaving one chair in the front row empty with a panel that says, "We'd know you'd be here today if heaven wasn't so far away.". I'm also dedicating my bouquet to my grandma instead of doing a bouquet toss.

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  • Alisha
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    Your plan sounds good. I am doing a remembrance table for love ones whom past. i am doing picks of them and I thinking about writing something special about them so that people would know who they are. This is how I am going to do it. However you are planning to do your remembrance of your love ones will be great and special because they have influenced both of your lives in some way.

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