How did you get addresses for save the dates/invites?

I wouldn't do it on Facebook, because you'll get people inviting themselves. We asked each person/family individually.

Either ask the parents - I got mine from my mother's address book, and FH's from his brother's wedding list a year before.

For anyone else - we contacted them personally - text mostly so I made sure I got it correct.

A FB post is definitely tacky - do not do this.

I went to the mothers for the addresses of family members. Mothers as in my mom and his. They should know quite a bit. And if not then use Facebook skills to fill out the rest of the info, as in find them and direct message them.

I asked each and every person individually. Don't do a Facebook post.

Yeah, a FB post is tacky. You'll get randos asking if they're invited lol.

With the help of my mom and MIL we gathered addresses and contacted people individually if we didn't know their address.

Please don't do a Facebook post because it may open you up to others inviting themselves or feeling hurt when they are not invited. I gave a list to my mom and my mother-in-law and my future husband to each gather some addresses and then I texted all of my friends individually. It was definitely a lot of work but it made us have more personal contact with people as well and broke up the task among a lot of people. Good luck!

We got most of his family's addresses from his mom, a lot of my family from my dad. I have been messaging people like crazy over the past couple of days to get the rest! Fiance suggested a group message on FB but it felt weird to me.

For our relatives, we used our parents' Rolodex. Our moms helped call the family members whose address was not updated. For our friends, we emailed/called. A few we don't have emails for, so we privately FB messaged them and asked.

It's a time consuming task, but once it's done, it's out of the way. Don't get lazy. Ask individually.

I either called people or sent them an individual message through Facebook messenger or email if I didn't have a phone number. Just don't post publicly & ask.

Facebook is tacky . .if anything, make a group private message on Facebook. .. .include all of your family members & ask them for their address that way

I got family addresses from my parents and grandparents. Any that they didn't have I would just call or message them and ask for it.

I got addresses from my mom and FMIL for a handful of family. All the rest I either had or I texted personally (I hate group texts) and PM'd them on Facebook (again, personally). It was a breeze!

I asked my side and my husband asked his. And make sure to double check that the addresses haven't changed between sending out the Save the Dates and the invitations! We had a few that had moved in that time so we were glad we'd checked.

Our mothers helped us with a lot of addresses and everyone else we reached out to individually. It was a task but totally necessary, imo.

Personally ask, and have family help if necessary. don't do facebook, you'll have ppl sending you addresses that you never intended on inviting!

Thanks everyone! Looks like I better get to asking people!

We used Facebook MESSENGER to direct message family that we didn't have contact info for after attempting to get it from parents. Other than that parents and text.

I asked my mom and FH's mom. I also reached out to some people.

I asked fiancée mother to get me bunch of them and she did. I m also close to her so I could ask her without any issues. If you are close to his mom, maybe she can help. Or he can just ask them himself. My fiancé has been extremely helpful with this.

Definitely try to ask both of your guys' parents and maybe even grandparents first. I feel like they tend to have lots of that kind of information, and that should cover a very large percentage. For everyone you can't get from there, I would definitely contact them directly to ask. Yes, it's a little tedious, but it's the most polite. If you really REALLY want to do a Facebook post (which I'm still not recommending), I'd say to make a private group of everyone that's invited and making a post asking all of them for their addresses. Although, this could very easily be perceived as rude, because they weren't worth the effort of you contacting them individually. You can post your little wedding updates in the group as well, because some people just enjoy knowing things like that.