How can I include my stepdad????

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I would definitely do a father-daughter dance with both, and I'd probably have both walk you down the aisle too.

What about splitting the father/daughter dance

My mom and stepdad have been together since I was 5 and he's basically given me the life that I have now. I'm also my dad's only daughter but luckily they both get along well so I'm having them both walk me down the aisle! My dad will be the one to give me away though and I'll also have my father/daughter dance with him. Maybe your dad wouldn't be so hurt if you talked to him about it? because he's still going to get those special moments with you!

Im in pretty much the same boat, my step dad has been around since i was 9 he has always been there for me im actually closer with him than i am my real dad but recently my dad has tried to fix things and also called my venue and paid for it as a surprise, im strugglin on how to tell my dad but im having both of them walk me down the aisle one on each arm. Im also doing a father daughter dance with both. I will do my and fh dance then father daughter, groom and mom, then me and my stepdad.

Having your stepfather do a reading would be a nice idea. Our officiant is including "parent vows" in our ceremony where our parents stand and she asks each set of parents if they take their child's fiance as their child. We aren't including my step-dad in this because we aren't very close and haven't known each other very long, but maybe having something like this and including him might be a nice touch?

I have a cousin who had the same problem. One of her dad's walked her halfway down the aisle to her other dad, and then the other dad walled her the rest of the way

For anyone who has had one Dad walk half way and the other walk the rest: does the second day just stand in the middle of the aisle and wait? I feel like this could be a little awkward.

For anyone who has split the walk: does the second Dad just stand and wait in the middle of the aisle? I feel like this could be a little awkward.

I'm following! my mom suggested the 2 father daughter dances and I am really looking forward to that.. and surprisingmy step dad and not telling him before.. my parents had a nasty divorce and have not spoken in about 5 years.. mostly from my dad's ill feelings.. He is a my way or the highway thinker and doesn't understand why we even have contact with our mom.. (she had some issues in her life she had to deal with but growing as an adult I understand and have forgiven and we have formed a relationship I am thankful for everyday) But when my step dad came into our life he was incredible from day one, helping my mother with her issues and treating me and my sister just like we were his children from the day we were born.. but my real dad has such a distaste for him.. I hope that one day my dad will just be thankful that my mom married a man that cares for his kids so much instead of the horror stories that can happen.. but the type of person my dad is, sadly, he would not get over it if I let my step dad walk me as well

@haley this is really similar to what I'm going though...it sucks! I plan on talking to my dad today to feel him out. I know this is ultimately MY decision but hell, it's a hard one!

@jaime if you split the walk maybe have the second dad sitting in a aisle seat and stand as you approach him. Then first dad can sit until there while you finish the walk then move to his seat up front.

How about your stepfather walk you halfway down the aisle and your real dad walk you through rest of the way?

I think I'm going to have my bio dad walk me all the way down and then my step dad (who will be sitting in the front row) get and up and give me away as well so he's included without stepping on my dads toes. Also will be doing separate father daughter dances!

@Jamie it really is! i just want to make the right decision and not hurt either.

I've seen where your dad would walk you half way down the aisle and then your stepdad would step in and walk you the rest of the way. This way you get to have a special moment individually with both of them.

I'm in a similar situation. My stepdad has been in my life since I was 10. I had a great relationship with my dad but he passed away. I talked with my stepdad who is thankfully super understanding. My brother is walking me down the aisle and I'm doing the father daughter dance with my stepdad

Im in the same boat.. I have a daughter, so my SO will be her step dad so we're gonna do a step dad dance. He will dance with my daughter while I dance with my step dad

I am having my brother walk me down the aisle. & then I am having a father-daughter dance with my dad and then one with my stepdad.