Hosting my own Bridal Shower

You don't do it.

Unfortunately, it is not appropriate for you to host your own bridal shower.

There's no appropriate way for you to host it yourself.

Big bowl of nope right there, Sweetie!

You don't do anything.

Plus your wedding is in October. Maybe you'll get one over the next 2-3 months. Who knows. But I would just go about your business and let her go about hers. All she is required to do anyway is to get her dress and show up to the wedding.

This is going to come of very harsh but.....literally the face I made when I read the title was like What? I have never heard of this. You can't host your own bridal shower. That just screams gimme gimme gimme gimme gimme

Talk to your other BM's and your mom... someone... you can't do it though.

If your moh isn't stepping up to do anything maybe another person will, like a close female relative?

Don't host your own bridal shower or bachelorette party or ask someone to throw it. It's incredibly rude to throw a party in your own honor, especially gift-giving events. You still have four months before your wedding - another friend or family member might offer to throw it. If not, it sucks but not everyone gets a bridal shower.

That sucks about your MOH, but unfortunately there are reasons why she might not host one. Hosting it is pretty expensive for them (plus bachelorette, plus the dress, make-up, shoes etc things add up!).

Unfortunately you cannot host your own bridal shower. The reason is because the intention of a shower is to collect gifts. If you host your own, it comes across as very greedy and selfish. Don't have a shower. In the end you'll get lots of gifts at your wedding anyway. It's not worth offending people!

If you go by proper etiquette, you don't. Maybe your other BMs or a family member can take over where your MOH left off.

BTW, if you're just looking for the "experience" maybe just try hosting a bridal luncheon where you serve lunch and just have the ladies over for some fun times/coffee etc. It's not a shower, and you still get to spend some time with your girls.

Ok, thats what I was wondering! I didnt even know it was a gift giving event until earlier this week. I havent been to a wedding or anything before so its new to me. Thanks for all the input!

Nice going Emily! You will do well here (once you change your avatar!). Happy planning

You don't. If you are willing to spend $$$ on a bridal shower for yourself put it towards upgrades for the wedding, honeymoon, or even to buy some or the things you registered for a few months after the wedding.

Yeah, sorry some people don't get one if no one offers to throw one. Maybe someone in your family will, does not have to be the MOH>

Don't throw your own. Also, be a bit more patient. My wedding is in October and my shower is the very end of July- my family thinks that's even early but with school starting in August and the craziness that brings, my hostesses felt July would be best (in my family, if you don't have sisters, the aunts throw your shower for you so we have to go by their kids' schedules).

ETA: grammar is hard.

My MOH and i are so close that if this was something that happened i know i would be able to talk to her about it... maybe try mentioning it but not in an rude way maybe just like ...hey i know that you and your bf are really busy and thats awesome, i ha e been confronted by a few people about the bridal party amd i know you had said you wanted to do this stuff is that still the case?

I personally would be more concerned about the rift in friendship here than the shower (where is @m?!) but to answer your question, you dont. Make a registry and if someone wants to buy you a gift, you can refer them to that (do not put on wedding invites).

ETA- It might be a case of everyone else assuming your MOH or another person is throwing it. Maybe an aunt or other friend will ask you "When is your shower?" and when they find out no one is throwing you one, they will step in. Don't ask.

Just curious: what did you think a bridal shower was?

A get together with all the women invited to the wedding to play games I guess. I have like 5 things on my wedding registry because weve owned a house for a few years now and I really dont need anything