Horrible bridesmaids🤬

When I said plan I used the wrong phrase. I meant helping setting up decorations stuff along that line. When I asked them to play this roll I told them everything I expected out of them and they all agreed.

Exactly you see it how it is traditionally done!

OK first off I've spent that money on them because I wanted to not because I had it I did that out of the kindness of my heart because they are doing something for me taking time out of their day to do something for me. A wedding planner in my opinion is just a waist of money. It just irks me when someone signs up and agrees to their roll as maid of honor but never goes through with it.

View Quoted Comment I AGREE WITH YOU 100% THEIR JOB IS TO BUY A DRESS AND SHOW UP..

You paid for your “horrible” bridesmaids hair and makeup out of the kindness of your heart but couldn’t buy your maid of honor a drink because it wasn’t a necessity? Haha ok girl
Good luck, clearly you have your opinion on what’s expected and that’s not going to change. But maybe you should think about if you value these girls as friends, it would be a shame to lose people who are supposed to be your best friends over some unrealistic expectations.

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Their role as maid of honor only entails showing up to the wedding in the dress, though.

View Quoted Comment Oh my goodness, I can't believe you called your friends "horrible to their faces!" A bridesmaid is a treasured friend and loved one. You honor them by marking them as special to you, NOT to help you plan your wedding. All they need be financially responsible for is their dress, and to stand up with you on your wedding day. And a Bachelorette party and bridal shower are things people plan FOR you because they want to and can afford to do so. I really think that you need to reset your expectations because they are not your employees, and you should apologize to them!

And for those who think I'm being harsh, keep in mind that
1) The original post was a rant and bridesmaid bashing, not asking for advice, no matter what category it's under.
2) If you're posting on a PUBLIC forum, you should expect a public response.

View Quoted Comment 100% agree. She’s not asking a question, she doesn’t want advice (or to even hear anyone’s opinion) she wants to argue and bash her supposed best friends to strangers.

I'm currently going through this and a couple of ladies dragged me expressing how I feel... I hope that things get better for you! Just try to focus on the wedding day itself and just try to let all the little things just roll off your shoulders. I'm truly sorry that you're going through this when it should be the happy moments like a shower or bachelorette party leading up to your wedding day.

AMEN! If they need help planning the wedding they need to hire a wedding planner. Bridesmaids have their own lives too...

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Exactly on point!