Horrible bridesmaids🤬

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Both of these comments are LIFE. I don't understand why folks are so uncharitable about their friends. They're not props, they're not servants, they're your friends and whole human beings outside of your wedding.

I think communication has a LOT to do with it. I know personally I was a bridesmaid once where there was not much communication about what was expected of me, so I just thought I needed to be supportive overall and show up. That was NOT the case, and it caused a LOT of hard feelings. I could easily see my being one of those people categorized as horrible, but I had no idea!

Expectations that are never vocalized have no hopes of being met.

Mine is October 12 too!!!

View Quoted Comment I chose to go to Santa Carla and she actually ended up riding with another bridesmaid when we got there "she lost her credit card" no one else wanted to step up and she is my best friend so I paid for her meals. Then it started getting out of hand when I started to order my beers she took it upon herself to start ordering alcohol beverages herself. Me being me I'll pay for your necessities but not your wants. That's how I was raised. And I'm pretty sure I'm the only bride out here that planned their lien bachelorette party and then my bridal shower 😂

View Quoted Comment They knew six months in advance where we were going everything was planned out for months. They knew their jobs before they took on the part of being a bridesmaid.

View Quoted Comment They knew what their expectations where before taking on their part as my bridesmaids and they agreed. So no my adjustment is in the right place.

Girl, this is my biggest fear.

I'm sorry your bachelorette party was horrible. I hope you have a great bridal shower (((hugs)))

I've already called them horrible to their face and I think they're finally getting the concept of their job. My fiancé is always gone for two to four months at a time he helps as much as he can but there's not much he can do

Oh I completely understand! None of my bridesmaids even respond to my messages! Dresses are in not even half responded to my message lol. Where did you go? Why did youbhave to pay forher?

View Quoted Comment She "lost her credit card" when she arrived with another bridesmaid. Don't get too carried away with yourself. 😂

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Their job is to buy a dress and show up to the wedding. You're the "only bride out there to plan her own shower and bachelorette" because doing so is extremely rude. Like PPs said, your expectations are way out of line.

View Quoted Comment What happened is that we were at my house and keep in mind I have five bridesmaids and we were at my house that morning getting ready to pack and everything else and we were waiting on my maid of honor well she arrives and my maid of honor and the rest of my bridesmaid sleep before I do because I had a surprise at the cottage that we had rented out and the cottage was only $168 for three nights and everyone could afford it because we had talked about it six months prior well she ended up riding with the other bridesmaids and she messages me when they get there saying that she has lost her credit card well me being me I pay for her meals and everything else and basically she was my responsibility for the whole entire three days that we were in Santa Carla everyone could afford it no one had any troubles paying for it except for her when she lost her credit card which I found out three days later was a lie her mom had called me herself and told me that she had maxed out her only credit card so I was pissed and she had told me that she would pay me that she would pay me back well here it is a month and a half later and I have still yet received any money that I had paid for her and while I was paying for our meals I was also paying for my alcohol beverages plus hers which I kind of felt was wrong I'll pay for her necessities but I never said that I would pay for her wants. Only had one bridesmaid actually help this whole entire time and none of it involves money except for the bachelorette party I have not asked them for one dime or anything else the only thing that I have asked them for doing was helping me plan the wedding because my fiancé is gone for 2 to 4 months at a time it can only help with so much while he's home for six days I don't ask them to go and buy things all I asked him to do is help me put simple decorations together and everything else I have never once asked them to go shopping And go get certain things for my needs or wants I have never once asked them to go and drop hundreds of dollars just for nonsense stuff

View Quoted Comment Obviously your priorities are way out of fine it is their job and the responsibility to help you plan not to go spend hundreds of dollars I have bought their wedding dresses and I have paid for their hair and make up the only thing that I ask them for is to help for planning situations because my fiancé is out of town 2 to 4 months and it's only home for six days

She lied and said that she had lost her credit card and her mother had called me saying that she had maxed her credit card out two days before that we had left on nonsense stuff

That's the whole case of it my maid of honor Lauren said that she had lost her credit card when honestly she maxed it out two days before that we had left every bridesmaids and maid of honor that I have came to the agreement of the only thing that I would need from them is their help in planning because like I've said before my husband is gone for 2 to 4 months at a time and it's only home for six days there's only so much that he can help me do I have paid for their dresses and hair and make up the day of the wedding and I asked for them as a little help to put some decorations together because my mom is not in the picture and I really don't have any other family

Amen sister

How much does this "job" pay?

If you need help planning and your fiance is unable or unwilling to help then you need to hire a wedding planner, not expect unpaid labor from your friends. And calling them horrible to their faces? Seriously? All they need to do is show up on time on the wedding day wearing the right clothes, that's it.

View Quoted Comment “Planning the wedding” to me is researching vendors, touring venues, meeting with various vendors etc etc etc. Is that what you asked them to do? I don’t want to assume anything without asking...if that’s the case you need a wedding planner.
Everyone else’s lives don’t stop just because we are all getting married. They still (and all of our bridesmaids) have their own lives. Your wedding is the biggest thing in your life, not theirs. It’s your and your fiancé’s job to plan the wedding, if you need that much help get a wedding planner. It’s a lot of work and it’s fine if you don’t have the time for it, but if you aren’t even expecting your man to make time to plan how can you expect your friends to pause their lives and plan your wedding??

Also, if my maid of honor or any bridesmaid had money troubles, I’d pay for her no questions asked, I’d pay for her “wants” too. Granted none of my friends would lie to me, so maybe you all aren’t as good of friends as you thought.

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It is not anyone's job or responsibility but you and your FH to plan the wedding.

I mean I’d be mad if someone maxed out their credit card and then moochef off of me for booze. Food absolutely I would feed anyone but luxury? Uh uh not on my dime. It is odd you planned your own bach, bridesmaids are supposed to host and pay for those. If no one steps up then brides just don’t have one.

View Quoted Comment Geez girl get a wedding planner! You HIRE someone for all that 🙄 you’ve got the money to buy their dresses/hair/makeup etc. Spend some more money and get a wedding planner!