Holiday weekend weddings, yay or nay?

A lot of people have specific plans those weekends. Camping for instance, where I am from. If they're true friends they will come to the wedding. But I think those are hard holidays. At least where I am from.

I personally wouldn’t mind as I would appreciate the extra day in the weekend. For those guests traveling from out town, it would be a pain since airlines and hotels tend to jack up prices around holidays so I’d be annoyed at the extra expense.

If you had a lot of back to back holiday wedding weekends I could totally see that it would get tiring and you would just want to be able to enjoy your long holiday weekends how you wanted!

I'm not a fan! We are always gone camping & fishing for Memorial Day weekend, and Labor Day weekend my fiance is usually gone for those 3 days + a couple more for hunting. I prefer to not take my holiday weekends for weddings.

I do not like holiday weddings, I personally have a job where I have to work holidays, so it's more of an inconvience to me then anything... also labor day usually go camping with my family. Not saying I wouldn't make the proper arrangmets to come to the wedding, but it's not as easy!

Doesn't bother me - I actually like it if we have to drive for the wedding. We tend to go boating or camping those weekends, but if a wedding fell on it you can literally camp anytime in the summer so we would just do a different weekend if we knew about the wedding in plenty of advance. I would rather it be those holdiays than Christmas or New years timeframe.

That’s a big no from me.

Totally not a fan. We typically like to go away for long weekends and this year we have not been able to at all due to weddings, including Thanksgiving weekend for this year. It's too expensive for accommodations, travel etc. and as a PP said, some people have to work holidays - which I am sure is more difficult to find coverage for. I might actually start saying no to more weddings on holiday weekends if it's a distant relative or acquaintance.

I can't stand holiday/ holiday weekend weddings. It's so presumptuous to assume that I wouldn't have other plans that I'd like to do other than your wedding.

Some people have holiday traditions that they look forward to all year.

It doesn’t bother me! But I also am not really a holiday person and don’t ever have special plans.

I'm impartial.

I think they can work really well if you have to travel to it, since this gives you (usually) an extra day for all of that, but on the other hand I also love spending time with my family and just relaxing on long weekends so I feel like I'd honestly also rather stay home!

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This is so right on! lol!

I also wonder if it's considered more or less rude to decline these holiday weddings. Because on one hand, they almost always know you're "free" in a sense, but on another hand they're asking you to give up holiday plays. I've gone in the past and we have YET another one coming up this memorial day that we just received a STD for. My bday is also on memorial day so we usually go out of town, but I'm honestly considering declining the upcoming holiday weekend wedding for next year just because I'm so sick of people thinking it's fun for us to attend Memorial day weddings! Unfortunately it's DH's cousin so we will probably look bad to the family if we don't attend.

We highly considered Labor Day weekend, but FI sister had a conflict we wanted to be accommodating of so we picked another date. Other than that it was a top choice. Our guests get an extra day ( especially out of town folks) plus we would always have a long weekend for our anniversary date. It was a win win.

I think this is a good idea.

Yes people make plans for those weekends, but I mean, people always have plans on all weekends right?

A three day weekend is perfect because you have an extra day to recover without needed to get time off work.

We are having ours the Friday leading into Memorial Day weekend. We are only asking for a Friday night to spend with us and that way they can have the rest (three days) to do whatever they want. I really wouldn't have any issue with someone else having theirs on a holiday weekend, I wouldn't be mad at the couple for "assuming" we don't have plans. If they are important to us, we will make time for their event.

We are getting married on memorial day weekend next year. Mostly because my FH graduates the weekend before and then starts his career in June so it worked best for us. Honestly, if I have guests who are complaining about my date because they have camping trips or plans, I wouldn't want them to come. They clearly dont care about FH and I enough to justify us paying for them to come then! We are only asking for that date one year out of our guests lives, not asking to celebrate anniversaries with us as well lol.

I personally don’t like them, but I guess it depends on the circumstances.

One of FH’s friends got married on July 4th and I hated the idea of giving up my annual family BBQ and fireworks. It ended up being ok, though because the wedding was in-state and over early, so I was still able to partake in some of my family’s gathering. However, my FSIL is getting married the Saturday before Easter this year and it’s the biggest pain in the neck. It’s out of state, so plane tickets are through the roof and FH and I can’t take off the day before to drive the long-distance. Hotel room prices are also astonishingly high. Also, I’m pretty strict with not eating meat and drinking alcohol on Fridays during Lent and the whole weekend leading up to Easter. So I just feel like I wouldn’t be able to have much fun (or just give-in and not follow this for one day).

So long story short, I guess it just depends if you have traditions on those certain holidays (in my opinion).🤷🏼‍♀️

Memorial Day and Labor Day aren't major holidays for me so I don't think it's a big deal.
Were getting married MLK weekend b/c it's a long weekend

I don’t like losing my holiday weekend since I like to make my own plans. Everyone freaked out when they thought my wedding was over thanksgiving but I explained it’s actually before thanksgiving and they were happy.

I personally don’t travel anywhere for those Holidays, so if someone has a wedding those weekends it would be totally fine with me.

Holiday weekends like Labor Day or Memorial Day don't bother me but weddings that are on major holidays like 4th of July or right around Christmas I don't like at all.