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Totally agree with everything I have seen posted here, and I think the final decision often comes down to your venues policies... I know our venue was really understanding that we didn't want to pay for a 250-person hall to have a ceremony with 7 guests!

We decided to postpone the big party and just have a 1-year celebration because I couldn't stand the idea of not being able to hug my guests, when if I wait just a year, it is far more likely I'll be able to do so - there is likely to be either a robust trace and track program up and running, or a vaccine, or both. Plus, we did the quick mental math, and most of our costs are for the reception and barely any are for the ceremony.

So we simplified to having a ceremony with our immediate family at a big empty church at the end of this year, and a hopefully not socially distanced vow renewal and big fun reception at our original venue at the end of 2021.

I have heard from a few people who are trying to start a family, and postponing isn't an option for them. A few people are concerned about an aging relative passing away for other reasons if they postpone. There's a lot to consider in making the decision, but from my experience, if you can move the big party out a year, you'll probably feel a weight come off your shoulders.

Hope that helps!

So we are having a small ceremony on June 7th! Eeekkk a week away. My mom, bridesmaids, wedding planner and fiancé’s cousins will be there. A total of 17 people, maybe 20. Then we are having our wedding reception in September. We have 200 invited and I already have about 20 no’s on my side of the family. I can assume there will be no’s on my fiancé’s side. Our venue capacity is 320. So even with a 50% capacity limit we should be okay. I’m assuming that the venue operating capacity will be at 50% by August maybe sooner. So we are going ahead.

That is a super hard decision. I’m hating it for every couple making those choices. I’m dead set that I’m getting married on my date no matter what the regulations say about numbers. But my backup plan is to just have a private ceremony on the original date and then to plan a vow renewal and more public celebration later. I think I would have a hard time deciding who to cut out and say never mind. So I would probably cut it down to our immediate family and those we’d already asked to be in the wedding party. And then have a celebration later on.

View Quoted Comment We are in the exact same situation! Both have HUGE families (his mom is 1 of 17. My grandma is 1 of 17). Guest list was at 300 after cutting a TON of people. We initially said we’d get married this year on our original date of 10/17/2020. And have our wedding next year October 2021 for our 1 year anniversary. Unfortunately my fiancé just lost his uncle, who was basically his father, to COVID. And we aren’t playing ANY games. It’s real. And until there’s a vaccine I won’t be comfortable having a large ceremony. Who knows when a vaccine will be here?! Who’s to say next October will be safe? I’m not gonna keep rescheduling just for a wedding. This virus has really centered us & we realize it’s about our love. Thassit. Small ceremony in October for us. ❤️ You have to do what makes sense for you. What decision can you sleep with years down the road?

Hi Jamie! We are eloping. Just the two of us, now, in May of 2021. Then that fall we'll have our huge reception and invite everyone. If we invite anyone to our wedding feelings would be hurt. For us, this is the best of both worlds. Best wishes to you!!

Jaime, I agree with some comments above. My fiancé and I are planning to cut our guest list drastically and move forward with a ceremony (offering virtual viewing for everyone else) and a very small reception on our original date. We will then have a huge celebration (hopefully in honor of our 1 year anniversary) to include more friends and family.

View Quoted Comment Aweee you too 😢 it’s sooo hard I’m sitting here right now drafting up a new guest list!! But yes I would definitely love to do something big still ♥️

View Quoted Comment Yes! It is such a hard decision, but we just say it’s a story to tell our children and a testament to the strength of our relationship and things we may face in the future.

View Quoted Comment That’s a good idea as well to keep it just between you too ♥️!! Others have been telling me to do what’s best for US I just hope no ones takes anything personal 😕!!

View Quoted Comment I think that is so thoughtful that your guests are telling you all to do what is best for you. Our guests aren't that selfless. Ha! Ha! Venues and hotels are booking up quickly for next year. I'm sure your guests will be so happy for you!! Congratulations!!! xoxo

I am having this same problem! Our guest list is 350 and we have to cut down to 150. We definitely don’t want to chang our wedding date but what is the correct way to uninvite guests?

View Quoted Comment Aweee Amen to that !!!! ♥️🙏🏾☺️

View Quoted Comment Omg 350 🙌🏾♥️!!!!! We’re in the same boat!!!! When is your wedding? And my fiancé and I said we would make a video and post it online or send one of our Engagement picture/card to our guest apologizing for the cut back 😕

View Quoted Comment Yeah there more than understanding, and aweee your guest are saying otherwise lol omg!!! But yes!! That’s one reason we’re iffy about doing it next year because things and dates are already booking now 😕😫

View Quoted Comment Aweee 😞 I’m sorry to hear about the lost of your fiancé uncle to COVID 19 wow!!! That’s another thing I was saying I really don’t feel comfortable being around 300 ppl for the first time since all of this started!! I would feel really bad if someone tested positive for COVID after being at our wedding heck or if my fiancé or myself etc!! it’s really something to consider and not act as if everything is “back to normal” 😕!!! And Heyy 10.17 was a wedding date we were considering too ♥️

View Quoted Comment Heyyy ♥️ And yes such a hard decision!!! But same here we’re definitely sticking to our original date 9.26!!!! I pray it’s a beautiful day that day 🙌🏾♥️☀️🌤 lol!! But if we do invite ppl it’ll definitely be our parents, siblings, and grandparents and the wedding party like you said!

View Quoted Comment Aweeeee Omg congratulations 🎉 I just got really excited (as if it’s my wedding day in 5 days lol) but YES!!!!!!!!!! ♥️ And as far as our venue they don’t have any information at this time as far as guidelines and restrictions etc ! So it’s really a waiting game but we’re preparing to cut back! But that’s a good number of ppl to have at your ceremony and it would be about that on our end as well!! And yeah I can imagine some ppl not wanting to travel during this time while others are like !!!!!IM STILL COMING!!! Lol but enjoy your day!!! I hope it’s beautiful 😍!!!!

View Quoted Comment Heyy!!!! And your absolutely right about the cost!! That’s our biggest budget, we only put down the deposit for the venue and needed to wait on the head count from our guest for the remaining balance which we would haven known by July from sending out invitations! But I’m all for marrying now and partying later lol ♥️ But definitely a lot to consider 😕

View Quoted Comment We are getting married October 10th. That’s a good idea to do a post card.

Hey!! Congratulations! I live in Jersey so we had to make the hard decision to postpone our October wedding. Our governor won't allow any large gatherings, and I also had a guest list of over 250. We weren't sure if things would get better in time, and we have many older family members who probably wont feel comfortable attending. And we also want our guests to feel comfortable dancing, hugging, and having a good time. We postponed till May. Good luck!