So my wedding is next June and the girls just ordered their bridesmaids dresses. I have one girl who has had a chronic drinking problem, but she introduced me to fiancé and hasn’t done anything to intentionally sabotage any of our events or wedding.
To be fair, she also hasn’t done anything but the bare minimum but I also haven’t asked much of her because of her behavior. Over the past 9 months, I have slowly learned that she also has a serious drug problem. During her dress appointment she was very defensive, fidgety, and twitchy. She also missed the first one because she overslept for a noon appointment. The flip side is she didn’t drink at all at our engagement party and showed up looking very classy and put together. As a whole, she just isn’t someone who can “adult” well but I’ve been trying to cut her some slack.
A few weeks ago she got arrested for her second DUI (aggravated since her BAC was twice the legal limit) and a felony drug charge for possession of a controlled substance. She said it was for Xanax and that she had her mom’s pill bottle on her. The thing is, her mom passed two years ago so that’s irrelevant. I recently learned our state doesn’t consider Xanax to be a controlled substance but cocaine, her drug of choice, is on the list.
She’s choosing to fight both charges and at the very least is looking at one year in jail, losing her license, and paying fines. Worst case, she could go to prison for 3 years.
I’m torn because I don’t want to kick her while she’s down but I also have to do what’s best for me and my family, as my fiancé and I are expecting our first child. I honestly don’t know whether to remove her or not. Technically she hasn’t done anything to sabotage the wedding (and she may not) but she also lied to me and is in some serious trouble. Any advice??
If you made it this far, bless you! I appreciate any advice you can give.
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