Help! Not liking my engagement ring.

I guess you need to ask yourself, does the ring really matter that much or that he loves me enough to get me a ring? I don't know if I would say anything just because I have a feeling it would probably hurt his feelings. If you do mention it to him, make sure you choose your words wisely. Good luck.

I don't think it's not worth it to say any thing. Its not like he is going to go out and get you a different ring just because you said something. I think by saying something you might just hurt his feeling. Its not about the ring. Really the ring doesn't matter.

It certainly doesnt have to be part of you forever. its just an engagement ring. once you are married you could just wear a band like the one you are talking about. and put your engagement ring away. many women do that. some wear their engagement ring on their right hand and just wear a band on their left. also, most women dont wear the same ring their whole life. my mom has had like 4 different rings. right now, the one she wears is a family heirloom. and she has had a "past, present, future" ring. and she has the original my dad gave her in her jewelry box. at the end of the day, the ring is supposed to be a symbol of your love. but you should love it. i think when you guys pick out your bands, make sure you really really love it. and just wear the band after you tie the knot.

I think we need to see a pic of this ring to understand just how much it isn't like what you wanted

It sounds to me like a solitaire. I am not a fan of Solitaires either but if it is one there are actually a lot of really pretty wraps or bands that would great with a solitaire that make it look better. Take a look at those and if you still don't like it, I think you should mention something. Yes it probably will hurt his feelings at first but you don't want to wear something you don't like for the rest of your life. I am sure he will understand.

Here are a couple wraps i found

More!!! Almost makes me wish i had a solitaire.

I think it sounds like a solitaire too, in which case it cost him good money, and it might be a good idea to let him know that you wanted something simpler, and you can use the money he gets back for a bigger wedding? I just think that you are wiser being honest and letting him know!

Thank you all for sharing your two cents. I really appreciate that you took the time to help me look at this more clearly. I have been thinking about an impending dinner conversation including, "This is beautiful, but...." and just couldn't go there.

Carly and Krista (thank you for these photos by the way!!!) mentioned focusing on the wedding band heavily to potentially change the look/vibe of the original ring. I hadn't thought of that!!

He is truly a fantastic guy afterall. I just needed a little bit of time think this out better.

When i first got my engagement ring, it wasnt at all like i had invisioned in my head. I had wanted my band to be beautifully carved white gold, with a smaller inset stone. but instead he got me a plain white gold band with a past, present and future setting with smaller diamonds around it, and even though its an inset diamond it still sits pretty far off my finger, but ya know what?? i LOVE it, after hearing the stories of how he researched rings and diamonds for months, and how when he first saw this ring (and i quote what he said) "Olivia just HAS to have this ring!". After hearing how excited he was and how much love he had poured into looking for one, i just could help but love it

I have to admit my ring wasn't what I had always pictured either. FH and I had never talked about rings before, so he didn't know what I wanted when he went shopping. But I look at it this way - he decided to get me a ring and propose because he loves me. He called his mom and asked for help and had to come up with a story about going shopping with his sister so that I wouldn't find out. He described me to a T when he told the salesperson what I was like. He chose a ring that is beautiful and he chose it because he thought it fit me and my personality. For those reasons, I fell in love with it. When I look at it, I see all the thought he put into choosing it. That's why I love it - it represents how much he loves me.

Maybe you need to look at it that way. He chose that ring for you because he loves you.

My FH friend was telling my FH that how I was icking m own ering that the guys suppose to do it and surprise the girl. Umm first of all am way too picky with jewelry. I got sensitive skin and get allergic reactions rather quickly. Thats why I icked my ering ring. I love it. My FH gave me a promise ring which it's OK but when I gave birth and ut it back on I started developing allergic reaction and rashes on my finger. When I took it to my jeweler he said the ring was completely fake. I wanted to change the setting to a gold ring and my jweler said even if he did the middle di que diamond is fake and he will charge like 20 dollars just to do it but it's fake. My FH told him he bought it for $100 in china town. Thats why I icked my own ring. I'm picky and if I have to rock that ring I rather like it. This is my promise ring as I still wear it lol till I wait for my ering out of lay away

Weirdly enough, as I was reading your post, this came through on groupon for my area; maybe some of you saw it too? The men's band is very simple (but really cost effective) and the women's band is very pretty and diamondy. A beautiful solitaire is a great centerpiece for your bridal set, and can really be changed, stylewise, by the wedding ring/rings that surround it.

The really important thing, as many have said, is that he took so much joy in picking it out and (of course) proposing. Maybe his view of you is much more glamorous that your own view of yourself is, and that is very, very sweet too.

Men's Tungsten Band, Women's Diamond Band, or Diamond-Stud Earrings at Mark Awad Diamonds & Fine Jewelry (Up to 72% Off) http://www.groupon.com/deals/gx-mark-awad-diamonds-1?utm_campaign=VisitorReferral&utm_medium=email&utm_source=anonymous

I like the idea of adding a wrap to the ring to make it more like what you want. I don't think I would bring it up to him because he clearly is happy with the ring he picked and I think it's the thought that counts more than anything.

I agree w/ all the ladies on here.

I envisioned something kinda of like the ring I have, only I wanted more little diamonds on the side. I currently have a solitare Marque damond.

We did talk about ring styles I liked a little, and I told him the type of ring I'd like to have but also said I wanted it to come from him, and I wanted it to be a SURPRISE. The lady at the ring store actually told him he should bring me with him, and that's how modern couples do it but I wanted it to be special, and i wanted to come from him.

And even though it's not exactly what I hoped for, I love it so much...And I got to pick my band, and I made sure I had the extra daimonds I wanted on there

Not only that, there's always a chance of an upgrade down the road.

My mom has a had a few upgrades during her marriage, and now she wears a huge, huge 30, 000 dollar ring, and I keep telling him that's what he's got to look forward to. Bigger diamonds. lol. But that's me.

No I would not tell him. I would seriously reality check myself if I had those feelings too. You are willing to hurt his feelings because you don't like the band on the E ring he gave you..?

I wouldn't say anything to him. It would probably hurt his feelings, and he sounds pretty wonderful so I'm sure you don't want to do that.

Mine was the other way around, so happy with the ring, but his proposal was so not romantic...not always perfect :/

Putting myself in that situation I wouldn't say anything. My ring is not my dream ring but fh is my perfect fit. I can't imagine saying anything to him about something like a ring. Just me though.

I wouldn't say anything either. At the end of the day, ering symbolic. You may get used to it, if the main problem is that it's flashier than what you imagined. You can have it reset later. Perhaps you'll find a wedding band that makes the whole set look the way you like it. I think all those options are better than hurting his feelings.

My DH proposed only with the diamond, and we designed the setting together. He did it because when his friend proposed to his wife, she said "I love the diamond but I hate the setting". I thought it was the most awful reaction to a proposal I've ever heard.

I would not say anythig to him. I went & picked out my own ring and after wearin it for few months now i am not too crazy about it anymore. But i still wouldnt say anything to him. I picked it out my self & we paid out of our bank account together (only account we have is joint)

As other ladies said you can change it after few years. Or stop wearing all together & just wear the band. Also if you planning on having kods, your hands will ge swolen & you probably wont be able to wear ot after then anyway. Hands never go to same size they were...