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Just Said Yes June 2012

Help! Not liking my engagement ring.

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Sarah, on November 25, 2011 at 2:01 AM

He proposed in the most romantic way possible. He is a truly wonderful person and feel blessed to have him in my life. We had been ring shopping for a few months, and I had pointed out likes/dislikes. Specifically, since I'm not into jewelry, I said I didn't want a single diamond rising from the...

He proposed in the most romantic way possible. He is a truly wonderful person and feel blessed to have him in my life.

We had been ring shopping for a few months, and I had pointed out likes/dislikes. Specifically, since I'm not into jewelry, I said I didn't want a single diamond rising from the band because I felt it was flashier than I see myself as. I thought focusing on the band (pave?) and not a central diamond would suit me better. The night he proposed, I saw he chose a ring exactly like the ones I pointed out during earlier shopping trips that I didn't enjoy.

I don't know if I should tell him. I know he put time into what he selected, and even asked my best friend. So on one hand, I know he's happy with his choice and I'm grateful that we will be married soon. It is in itself a beautiful ring that many other women would pick out. On the other hand, I am not feeling super connected to the ring and don't know if I should say something because it will be part of me forever.

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Super February 2012
Amber · on November 25, 2011 at 2:27 PM
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Dont tell him you don't like it. suck it up for a while. when you guys go to pick out your wedding bands you can always trade it in for a set or something. It wont be as harsh as if you outright say i want a different one.
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Expert September 2012
Kesha · on November 25, 2011 at 2:32 PM
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My e-ring is nothing like the rings I showed him & I felt bad because I really didn't like it. I didn't say anything because I was so happy he proposed & I didn't want to seem like the ring was all I cared about.
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Super March 2012
Mrs.Winston · on November 25, 2011 at 5:25 PM
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All i can say is WOW..
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Expert November 2011
Brittney · on November 25, 2011 at 5:39 PM
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I would think of how you would feel if the situation were reversed and you had taken time to do what he did and then to have him tell you he didn't like the choice you made. I wouldn't say anything to him about but if you do, you need to be prepared for the consequences or for his feelings to be hurt. 'Cause he really didn't have to do what he did.
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Just Said Yes June 2012
Sarah · on November 25, 2011 at 6:02 PM
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You are all dead on. I fully understand the preparation that went into it. So then I'm wondering about the nitty gritty of it not being what I would have selected. You are right. I can't imagine making this an issue with him and don't want to hurt him. He is a spectacular guy!
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Super August 2012
Darlene · on November 25, 2011 at 7:11 PM
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I am sorry but my fiance did get a ring i did not like but we had discussed about ring shopping together before he got the ring. i had to speak up, he was able to return the first ring and we went ring shopping together.
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Dedicated June 2012
April · on November 26, 2011 at 4:11 PM
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I agree with Alexandra and Krista! I was actually in a very similar situation as you are... I just didnt feel a connection with my solitaire and he told me no hard feelings, its about what I am going to wear forever. So we went out shopping together and I picked a new one. We actually kept the diamond from the first ring and had it set in another setting (so we kept most of the $$ spent on the ring to begin with) and then kept the setting from the original setting and gave it to his mom (her e-ring was stolen out of her home a few years back) and his dad is going to buy a diamond and have it set. Everyone wins!
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Kara · on November 30, 2011 at 1:51 PM
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Sorry your not happy with your ring
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Master October 2012
Mouche · on November 30, 2011 at 2:05 PM
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I with everyone else here, I wouldn't say anything either, I'm not a flashy person either and told FH what I wanted too, and he got something a little smaller that I would have picked. I so love it and wouldn't trade it for anything, simply because he took time to pick it out and surprised me with the proposal.
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