Jaeden
Dedicated August 2021

Head table help!

Jaeden, on June 24, 2021 at 5:09 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 31
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So I have a big bridal party. There are about 17 of us total. However, some have spouses/partners and their spouses/partners do not know anyone else that is going to be at the wedding. Well, I can already hear some grooms or bridesmaid complain that they are sitting at the head table and their partner is not, I want to try and avoid this problem.
So I was thinking what about a sweet heart table, but the best man and maid of honor sat with us (they mentioned they really wanted to)? Do you think this will upset people, especially being that my fiancé chose (on his very own) my older brother as the best man and I chose my best friend who happens to be engaged to my brother?
I just want to avoid drama and everyone to have fun. What do you guys think?

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Latest activity by Llise, on June 28, 2021 at 8:17 PM
  • Ava
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    This sounds like an adorably perfect solution
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  • Jaeden
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    Do you think it will make the other bridal party members mad?
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  • Rebelle Fleur
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    I think it would be selfish of them to not consider the other members of the bridal party. A sweet heart table is a great idea.
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  • Michelle
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    A sweetheart table is an excellent compromise.
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  • Ava
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    Not at all! Head tables are quickly becoming a thing of the past (and tbh, are frequently regarded as rude). Most couples these days are opting to seat the members of their wedding parties with their significant others, and most WPs prefer to not be separated from their dates during dinner.
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  • Jaeden
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    So what should I do for people of the bridal party who want to sit at the head table and the people who want to sit at the head table but also want to sit with their partner? I would let the partner sit at the head table, but it is already so big! 17 people.
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  • Jaeden
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    Should I include the maid of honor and best man at our sweet heart table? Lol
    I know they want to sit with us.
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  • Rebelle Fleur
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    I would just have a sweetheart table and let the other members of the bridal party sit with their partners and acquaintances. You don’t need to have a head table.


    Also, the sweetheart table allows you some private time with your FH as you will be pulled in many directions throughout the day.
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  • Jaeden
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    Thats definitely good to know. What should I do about my maid of honor and best man wanting to sit with us at the sweetheart table?
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  • Jaeden
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    This is such a good thing to know. Omg thank you for your help!🖤
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  • Michelle
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    Either have a kings table where everyone sits together with their significant others and no one is on display because they are wrapped around the entire table or have a sweetheart table just you and fiancé.
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  • Jaeden
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    Ok. Sounds good. Thank you for your help!
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  • Ava
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    If I were in your shoes, I would definitely let them sit at the sweetheart table with you. It’s not uncommon for the best man and maid of honor to be included in things that the groomsmen and bridesmaids are not. For example, they are typically the only ones that give speeches at the reception. They often times have something different about their attire to set them apart. And I have been to multiple weddings where the bridesmaids and groomsmen walked down the aisle then sat in the front row, but the maid of honor and best man stood at the altar with a couple. And c’mon, it’s extra adorable that the best man is your brother and the maid of honor is his fiancé! 💕 That works out perfectly, because you will not be splitting up any couples! I highly doubt any of the bridesmaids or groomsmen will be offended, because most people do not like being on display at the head table while they eat, or being separated from their dates. If any of them ask, I would just explain to them that there is no way to have a head table large enough to accommodate their significant others, and you wanted to make sure they all got to eat with their partners - that they went out of their way to honor your relationship, and you wanted to return the favor and honor theirs.
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  • KYLIE
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    I completely agree! I think an “extended” sweetheart table with your brother and BFF/his fiancée is super adorable! In terms of others potentially being offended about not being at a head table—sit all members of the bridal party with their dates, and if it works, put their tables closest to yours.
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  • Brianna
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    We are doing a sweet heart table but just us. The first table on my side will be bridesmaids and their significant others, the same applies to his side. Our parents and immediate others will be the next table on both sides
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  • Jaeden
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    This is perfect. I really like this idea. I might copy you.
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  • Jaeden
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    Ok! So you like my idea lol. Im glad. I think what you're telling me is a very good plan too. I will probably be doing this.
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  • Jaeden
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    I think you just made my life a whole heck of a lot easier. What you are saying is a great idea and what a great explanation. Haha. Thanks! My fiancé and my brother are pretty close and they like help each other with things for me and Sam.
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  • Ava
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    That’s so cute! It’s like a real life Hallmark movie!
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  • Jasmine E.
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    I agree that you could have one long farm table to fit the whole wedding party and their dates. Otherwise you'll need two small tables, or just disperse your wedding party around the room to keep them with their dates.
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