Jaeden
Dedicated August 2021

Head table help!

Jaeden, on June 24, 2021 at 5:09 PM

Posted in Wedding Reception 31

So I have a big bridal party. There are about 17 of us total. However, some have spouses/partners and their spouses/partners do not know anyone else that is going to be at the wedding. Well, I can already hear some grooms or bridesmaid complain that they are sitting at the head table and their...
So I have a big bridal party. There are about 17 of us total. However, some have spouses/partners and their spouses/partners do not know anyone else that is going to be at the wedding. Well, I can already hear some grooms or bridesmaid complain that they are sitting at the head table and their partner is not, I want to try and avoid this problem.
So I was thinking what about a sweet heart table, but the best man and maid of honor sat with us (they mentioned they really wanted to)? Do you think this will upset people, especially being that my fiancé chose (on his very own) my older brother as the best man and I chose my best friend who happens to be engaged to my brother?
I just want to avoid drama and everyone to have fun. What do you guys think?

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  • SHY
    Master January 2022
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    I like that idea! It works because they obviously want to sit with you both, and the rest of your wedding party gets to sit with their SOs.

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  • L
    Just Said Yes July 2021
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    I had a similar problem. I automatically seated the single people at the head table and then I gave the people in couples options to sit at the head table and have their SO sit at a regular table or both of them to be seated at a regular table. Nearly everyone opted to sit at the head table with the group. However, yours is a great compromise. And if they are upset, let them be. It's your day, they'll survive!

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  • Jaeden
    Dedicated August 2021
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    I love this! Lol what a great option.
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  • Jaeden
    Dedicated August 2021
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    Right? It is like a win win almost?


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  • Jaeden
    Dedicated August 2021
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    But is this too much at the head table? How would that even work?
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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    I love your idea Jaeden!! I always prefer having the bridal party being able to sit with their significant others (or dates) at the reception!

    I've had a few friends do super long head tables for the whole bridal party and their dates, and one of our friends did exactly what you suggested and sat at a round table up front with their best man, maid of honor, and their spouses. 💕

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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
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    I think head tables are outdated and dislike them because they split up couples and most people do not want to be "on display" while eating. They're super awkward IMO.

    I would choose a sweetheart table but since your MOH and Best Man are engaged, I think it would be fine to include them at your table. I would just consider how you'll seat the four of you in relation to your guests. I do think it would be a little awkward if you were all facing one another (it would seem more like a private, exclusive party) but if you sat facing your guests (like a traditional sweetheart or head table) I think it would be fine.

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  • Jaeden
    Dedicated August 2021
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    Oh. Thats good to think about and to know about how I seat everyone.
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  • Jaeden
    Dedicated August 2021
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    Really? How amazing. How did it go? Was everyone ok with it?
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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    It went really well! My bridal party was really happy as long as they got to sit with their spouses! Smiley heart

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    I think that's perfectly acceptable and wonderful! I hate big giant head tables, it's hard to photograph and you both don't get a chance to relax. Do the way you want. If people don't respect that, it's their issue, not yours. I'd rather keep your folks happy with them sitting with their repective partners - they need to have fun, so honor them for honoring you. You'll have your grand entrance with them and invite them first to the dance floor, so it will work out great. It's your wedding, and never feel that you have to go by tradition or what others think. You don't want your head table to look like a circus either! lol best of luck and it will work out great!

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