Head Table Configuration HELP needed

Compelling argument? I can't think of one reason against them. No one will be looking at you more than they would a head table, your loved ones get to sit with their loved ones, and you're not on display like you're a royal court, just having a lovely and intimate (relatively speaking) meal with your husband.

I guess i'm not sure where the problem is. why cant you do the same head table you had planned, but just not put it on the carpeted area?

You're barely at the table anyways as the bride and groom, so you may as well have a sweetheart table and seat everyone else where they want to be seated. That's what we're doing because it solves everything you mentioned above.

We are sitting at a table with our parents. It will be a "head" table, but really it's just another one of the rounds that will be decorated a bit differently. Neither of us want to be On Display all night. It's also a bit of a protection for us while we eat. lol

I love sweetheart tables!

Pros

1. You actually get to talk to your new husband and spend some time with him. They are so intimate.

2. You dont only have to talk to the person sitting directly beside you

3. They are more interactive for the rest of your guests as well

4. You'll be the first done eating so you can get up and talk to each table while people are finishing up. = More time to dance and party

5. Your friends can actually sit with their friends or significant others.

Cons

1. I can't think of a single one.

Sweetheart table - or sitting with your parents like Bea described - is really the only thing that makes sense in a situation like yours. You could do a massive king's table and include all the dates and families but it sounds like you have too many people for that.

Sweetheart tables are awesome, seriously. Wedding party gets to sit with their dates/spouses/families that they've already been separated from for the ceremony and pictures. You and spouse have a few moments to just sit together and take in the awesomeness that is all your loved ones in one place. People can stop by and say hi easily if they want to.

Head tables where everyone is looking the same direction just look so awkward and forced and dated.

I was going to say the same thing as Angela. During dinner, you and FH will be visiting all the other tables to say hello to your guests. If you're not at the head table, there will be a gaping hole in the middle of it where you're not sitting between BP members.

A second idea could be that you seat yourself and FH at a round table with all of your parents. Depending on the size of your table, also seat your MOH, his BM, and their SOs at your table. You could either seat the rest of your BP (and their SOs) at a nearby round table, or mix them with other guests.

I still think the sweetheart table is the better option, though. You won't be awkwardly leaving a hole at a large table where other people are sitting when you visit with your guests.

These are reasons why I'm not a fan of head tables, but felt we 'should' because well, I'm not sure why now! LOL... For some reason, the sweetheart table feels a bit isolationist. You've given good arguments, and frankly @Katie; those have nearly changed my mind! I really don't like the all facing out head table idea @Rebecca, you're absolutely right... it does feel forced.

Alrightee... now I'm considering a sweetheart table. Ugghh!

@Bea... that was the original idea of just sitting with MoH/SO, BestMan/SO, and OOT sisters (his and my 2 and their SOs)... parents are gone.

I vote sweetheart table. Unless we were sitting, and eating one of our four courses, we were not sitting down at all - all night. We socialized and visited every table and the videographer caught my moves on the dance floor. a lot!

Imagine your FH gets asked to be in the wedding party for one of his friends. They decide to have a head table; you get relegated to a "plus one" table, or even worse, a filler seat at a table of friends from high school. At the plus one table, none of you know each other, and you're constantly getting visits from the significant others that are in the wedding party or going to visit the head table. At the high school friends table, they all know and talk to each other while you wonder how many times you can go visit FH without it being weird. You haven't seen FH since breakfast because he had "groomsman duties" to perform. You already had to make small talk with a bunch of people you don't know during the 2-hour cocktail hour and can't wait for dinner to be over so you get to see each other.

#TeamSweetheartTable

Why don't u have a kings table? It's basically where the bride and groom sit at the head, and bridal party, and family can sit around the other sides. Since we have a big bridal party, we will be at a SH table and there will be 2 king tables, one for BP kids and one for BM/GM.

@Frugal... bridal party was ALWAYS going to sit at regular tables with their SO, for those reasons. MoH and her SO, Best Man and his wife, along with all 3 sisters and BILs were going to sit at head table. Nixing that idea based on good advice I've received (see how that's done, newbies!).

Thinking sweetheart now. ..maybe

*****....@******...***** table...hmmmm that's an idea

I thought a king's table was basically a head table for the bride, groom, BMs and GM, and their SOs?